You’re Going to Die Soon

Consider this to be a much-needed reminder.

Don’t die with your music still inside you.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

Last week, during my radio tour to promote my new book, Making Work Work, one of the radio hosts asked me an interesting question off the air, prior to our interview:

“Writing a book is a grind, isn’t it? What kept you motivated to keep writing it when it would have been so much easier just to procrastinate or quit?”

Without hesitation, I had an answer–and I think that it surprised him.

“Because I’m going to die soon.”

<Awkward pause>

“Um, whoa…I didn’t know that. Are you sick?” The host asked sheepishly.

“No, actually, I’ve never felt better,” I replied, “but honestly, that could change in an instant. It may sound morbid, but I keep my mortality in mind every day to ensure that I don’t die with my music still inside of me. That’s what kept me showing up to write when I felt like quitting.” (Side note: my response will make more sense if you’ve read the Introduction of my book).

Yes, paradoxically it’s the thought of death that keeps me alive.

No Time To Lose

Okay, maybe the previous sentence was a little extreme, so let me clarify:

It’s the thought of dying before I have the chance of fully expressing myself that keeps me alive.

So, here’s the truth that cannot be debated–you’re going to die. Maybe it will be 30 years from now, or maybe it will be 30 minutes from now. But you will die. That much is certain.

The problem is that way too many people think that they’ll be one of the special ones who has decades left to fulfill all of their hopes, dreams and desires. That “dying young” stuff only happens to the other people, right?

Well…no, it doesn’t.

Sadly, dying young could happen to you, to me, or to someone who you love. What if you reminded yourself of this sobering fact on a daily basis? What could potentially change in your life if you thought–no, believed–that you really could die soon?

Would you really procrastinate on writing that book that you’ve always dreamed of writing?

Would you really withhold telling your friends and family how much you love them?

Would you really stay in unhealthy romantic relationships because the thought of starting over is too scary for you?

Would you really let your toxic boss or coworkers erode your happiness, sanity, and faith in humanity on a daily basis?

Would you really live a life that’s smaller than the one you know that you’re here to live?

Probably not. Especially, if you realized that the most valuable–and uncertain–commodity in this world (aka, time) may not be on your side.

The Positivity Wake-Up Call

If you’ve read this far, you might be thinking, “Did I type in the wrong web address? This doesn’t sound very positive…”

But it is positive. The thought that we could die soon has been a positive game-changer for a lot of people. Personally speaking, it changed everything for me:

  • I started The Positivity Solution with zero formal writing experience, very few followers, and a ton of self-doubt–but, I launched it anyway, because I wanted to share my dream of creating a more positive world with others before I died.
  • I wrote my book, Making Work Work, because I’ve had a dream to write a book that would help others ever since I was a little boy–and I was locked-in on doing it before I died.
  • I tell people on a daily basis (friends, family, and sometimes, even complete strangers) how much I love and appreciate them. I’m sure some people might think that I’m a little weird for constantly sharing how much I love them, but that’s better than dying–or having them die–without them knowing how I feel.
  • I ruthlessly cut out the drama-addicted, chronically-toxic and soul-draining people from my life, because I refuse to have these people have any meaningful influence on me during my short time on this earth.

Our trips around the sun are limited, and if you think that you can wait to take necessary action on the things that deeply matter to you, then you are mistaken, asleep, or both. I know, because I’ve been there.

As much as I hate to admit this, the truth is that I’ve lived nearly half of my adult life asleep. On a positive note, now that I’m finally awake, I’m willing to do everything in my power to stop others from wasting as much time as I foolishly did.

Don’t die with your music still inside you.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

The music inside of you is very real, and your mortality is too.

Please share your music with the world before you die.

There is no faster way to positively contribute to the world.

Your Turn

Do you have music that you’re not sharing with the world because you feel like you can do it later? Do you feel like the idea that “you’re going to die soon” is inspiring or depressing? Jump into the comment section below and make your voice heard!

Shola

Shola

Founder of The Positivity Solution
Author, keynote speaker, and kindness extremist who is committed to changing the world by helping as many people as possible to live and work with more positivity.
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Comments

  1. Boom! Love this message, Shola!!!!

    I have not every really thought about having a message (or music) inside of me, but I know I definitely try to live my life to the fullest. This crazy life I am living—working full time, grad school full time, three teenagers, husband, blah blah blah—is really not for me. It is because I know I have stuff inside me that could help others, and in order to make that happen I need a degree. I laugh at myself for doing this at almost 46 years old, but why not now? I will be 50 soon whether I go to school or not. Might as well be closer to Dr. Kathy than I am now, right?

    Keep pushing your awesome messages, Shola. Keep reminding us of what is important. I am sharing this post today because I want the people I love to wake up and realize they have music inside and a limited time to get it out!!!!

    Happiest of Mondays, dear friend!

    Kathy

    • Hey Kathy! Cheers to you! I did the exact same thing in my forties! Worked full time, completed two degrees, finished raising my three kiddos, and lived through my husband’s major illness and treatment. So, from one who has walked the path you’re on, I say, keep walking! You can do it!

  2. Thanks Shola. I appreciate your Light and Wisdom. 🙂
    I also think about my death frequently as a reminder of what to invest and what to let go. I want to make my “temporariness” useful and positive for this world… this Universe… and why not for All Universes.
    🙂 Amen.
    Have a Super Inspiring Week too. Michèle x x x

  3. Hi Shola!
    Thanks for the reminder that we will all die! I just attended a friend’s funeral on Friday. He was 53. So, this is pretty real in my life right now. I also want to say, I did something courageous this weekend. I finally launched my own blog! I’ve been “waiting” until I had all my ducks in row, but Saturday I decided, “Enough of this waiting! I won’t ever launch if I’m waiting for ducks to line up!” 🙂

    Thanks for your encouragement. I’m super excited about this new adventure I’ve accepted to embrace and live out. I have a calling. I believe everyone does. So, here’s to everyone out there searching for the positive in this world. Remember, together we can to it!

  4. This is so true Shola!
    My Dad died when I was 18. He was 52. 3 months later, his sister died at 47, and a few years after that, one of his brothers at 48 so I realize that longevity may not be on my side.
    I don’t feel that I have any significant items on my to do list (writing a book or becoming famous isn’t something I aspire to) but I do believe in seizing any opportunity that is presented (and is reasonable!) My family has moved to 9 new cities/towns in the past 20 years. Some folks think we are crazy, but I look at each move as an opportunity to gain new life experiences and to make new friends! We love to travel – sometimes rather last minute as schedules and funds permit! I have taken the opportunity to meet many people whom I have met online through support boards for a neurological condition my son has, or 2 amazing bloggers who took a chance to meet up at a Coffee Bean location on one of our weekends! 😉
    Carpe Diem as I really have no idea how long I’ve got on this earth!

    Have an AMAZING day Shola and thanks for sharing your message! I’m writing an exam in 2 hours, THEN I’m going to open up your book that arrived on Friday!!! 🙂

  5. Hi Shola,

    Drumroll and a big congrats on the successful ‘premiere’ of the book! Well done. I daresay that it is, undoubtedly, the first of many more to come.
    Your post today has just lifted my spirits and inspired me to keep maximizing every moment, whatever the challenges, disappointments, setbacks, betrayals, pain, sorrow or suffering that already exist, or lie ahead. Thank you for fulfilling your ‘calling’ on earth; your blog literally saved my life. I have been devouring all your posts ever since, reading and re-reading each one. God bless you.
    My two cents/contribution to this lovely message is: ‘…follow your dreams, they know the way’.
    Don’t forget to put your back into it! It won’t be easy though – nothing good ever is. Have a blessed week.

  6. really a wonderful ‘WAKE- UP’ call – love this message

  7. Shola, what a great followup to your book debut, to encourage us to realize our dreams too! I was just thinking this weekend, how life is unpredictable, and so many friends & family are gone already. People I assumed would be with me throughout my life, but they died young. I was actually feeling lonely because three of my closest friends died young, in the last few years. These days I focus on getting things done that I feel are important, and I try to be the person that I would want my loved ones to remember fondly. Ok Shola, I will finish Making Work Work by this weekend, and will post a great review, because so far, I really think you’re hitting all the important points, and you are a natural writer.

  8. This is such an important and positive reminder for us all!! There are many sayings that try to capture this message (“live as if you’ll die tomorrow”, “yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift which is why they call it the present”, etc.) – but none enliven the profound meaning of those words like you have. Thank you, my friend!!

  9. Kathleen Carey says:

    Hey Shola,

    First of all a big congratulations on the success of your book! Tried to make it out to Pasadena but had some difficulties with traffic – regardless I bought the book specifically for a friend (former co-worker still at the company) who is in the same situation I was in when I had my meltdown (I will read it first). Hopefully she will gain some valuable insight and change her life, then recommend the book to others.

    Now, about this post…like you, I was asleep for a very long time. I actually think about my own death more than I probably should but it does keep me on track to what is important (in my truth). I still nod off sometimes but those moments are becoming less and less. I know there are other blogs addressing similar topics but I truly believe your way of being, your enthusiasm and your insight, touch people deeply, evidenced by the many comments I read. Self-reflection and holding on to life with both hands before it is gone, is a powerful message. I now play the music inside me (art) without thinking how someone else will respond, I just do what my heart and mind tell me, one day I’ll find my “tribe” (ya know…the ones who actually like and are inspired by my work) – maybe…but it is not my focus.

    Thank you my friend,
    Kat

  10. I loved it! It is something we all need to live by. I am living the consequences of not doing just that. My husband just passed in May at 37 yo. We had so many plans for the future. Remodel our house, start a business and travel. Now all of this changed in one moment. We all need to live everyday with passion and love. Knowing tomorrow is never promised!
    Thank you Shola!

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