The other night as I was sitting up in my bed, I had a thought enter my mind that hit me like a ton of bricks:
“Damn, I’ve asked you guys to do some really tough things here at The Positivity Solution, haven’t I?”
Just in 2015 alone (and we’re only 2 months in!), I’ve asked you to:
- Get real (and I mean, really real) about how you’re currently feeling.
- Find the courage to push through pain to reach your goals.
- Release the people/things in your life that are holding you back.
- Learn to love and accept yourself unconditionally.
But this week, it’s time to put our feet up on the table, take the week off from the heavy lifting, and do something that is super easy.
Don’t miss the message, though.
As usual, even if it’s easy, if it’s on this blog, then it’s an important skill to get us closer to living a more positive life. Even more important, this skill has the power to completely change the world.
Best of all, it only involves saying two words consistently.
The Power of Two Simple Words
In my opinion, I have always believed that two of the most powerful words in the world are these two simple words:
Think about it, how do you feel when someone sincerely takes the time to appreciate you?
If you’re anything like me, you feel energized, you feel like your efforts mattered to someone, most importantly, you feel important.
On the flip side, how do you feel when you are underappreciated or unappreciated?
The power of a sincere “thank you” cannot be understated.
That’s why it’s one of the first things we teach our children as soon as they’re old enough to speak. When it comes to pure positivity, the positive power of those two words is tough to match.
Then why don’t we say it more often?
I know people who have quit their jobs, ended their marriages, harbored deep bitterness toward their parents, and walked away from life-long friendships just because they didn’t hear those two words often enough.
There is no doubt that we are an appreciation-starved society.
I used to work with a senior executive who proudly said that he doesn’t say “thank you” to his employees because that would make them soft and less willing to work hard for him.
If he really wanted his people to work hard for him, all it would take is for him to look into his employees’ eyes and sincerely thank them for their efforts. Instead, he thinks that he’ll get more from his staff by emotionally destroying them and withholding praise on a daily basis.
Yes, emotionally-unintelligent cavemen like guy, truly exist. Let’s refuse to be like him.
If we really want to make the world a more positive place, let’s commit to giving sincere and meaningful appreciation to others on a consistent basis.
The Easiest Way to Make Someone’s Day
You want to positively rock someone’s world in the easiest way imaginable?
- Randomly hug your spouse and thank him/her for everything that he/she does for your family.
- Give your coworker a handwritten note to thank her for how she specifically helped you with a recent project.
- Look the grocery store bagger in the eyes and sincerely thank him for taking care of your groceries.
- Call your mom out of the blue and thank her for helping to raise you into the man/woman you are today.
- Send a bottle of wine over to your best friend’s house as a “thank you” for always being there for you.
- Give an enthusiastic “thank you” to your kids for cleaning up their room, eating all of their veggies or doing their chores.
- Sincerely thank a stranger for offering you a smile and brightening up your day.
Believe me, these things matter a lot.
If you did just one of the things listed above–just one–you would completely brighten someone’s day in a way that you might not even believe.
In some cases, the positive effect of your appreciation could stick with that person for weeks, months, or even longer.
And it is so easy to do too.
You can literally make the world a more positive place by refusing to withhold praise and by choosing to sincerely and meaningfully thank others.
Do you want to change the world?
Thank someone today.
Showing Gratitude For What We Have
In our busy lives, we don’t always stop to appreciate the good things in our lives.
The fact that you have a computer, smart phone, tablet, or any other device that is allowing you to read these words, is an amazing thing. There are literally millions of people all over the world who will never be as fortunate in their lifetimes.
Taking it a step further, the fact that we’re able to read at all is something that’s worth being very thankful for.
I cannot say this enough. Being thankful, and I mean really thankful, is a state that we should consciously enjoy every single day of our lives. And sadly, it is so easy to forget this because sometimes we think that we’re too busy to be thankful.
If so, here’s a simple way to put an end to that today.
Let me ask you this: you’re never too busy to brush your teeth each day, right? (I hope)
If so, and if you’re short on time, why not use that time to focus on what you’re thankful for?
I have one of those fancy-schmansy Oral-B electric toothbrushes that times my tooth brushing for two minutes. During that time, I spend it focused on what I’m thankful for.
Since I brush my teeth first thing in the morning and last thing at night, I’m able to start and end my day focused on what I’m truly thankful for.
I honestly believe this tiny act (I wish that I could take credit for it, but I learned it from one of my close friends) has helped enormously to make me a happier person.
Seriously, try it. You’ll thank me (see what I did there?) later for this tip, I promise.
If you’re not currently spending time being thankful each day, how much happier could you be if you focused twice a day, morning and night, on being thankful?
In case you need a reminder, there are a lot of things in this world to be thankful for:
- Our kids.
- Our significant others.
- Our health.
- Our homes.
- Our inner strength.
- Our positive attitude.
- Our jobs.
- Our car.
- Our compassion.
- Our friends.
- Our freedom.
- Our unique skills.
- Our ability to positively change our lives whenever we’re ready.
If nothing else, we can all be thankful that we’re currently above ground and breathing.
Seriously, I’m challenging you to try it. Sure, it’s easy to find something for us to complain about, but enough of that tired crap.
Let’s focus on what we’re truly thankful for instead.
To start, all that you have to do is focus on what you’re thankful for while you’re brushing your teeth each day. That’s easy, right?
Do you want to change the world?
Remember each day what you’re thankful for and say a sincere “thank you” to the world that you’re fortunate enough to enjoy those things.
My “Thank You” to You
I believe that life is simpler than we might normally think.
It is entirely possible to positively change the world in a huge way by sincerely thanking others and being thankful for what we have consistently.
Simply put, I believe in the power of “thank you” with every fiber of my being.
Speaking of “thank you,” I’m also very aware that without you reading these words there would be no chance that my dream of making the world a more positive place could ever become a reality.
To everyone reading this who has ever believed in me, to everyone who chooses kindness over being an asshat, to everyone believes in the power of positivity, and to everyone who is dealing with enormous challenges in their lives and finds the courage to say, “Just today, I will stand up and fight for my best life,” I want to say something directly to you.
You consistently inspire me in ways that you may never know.
You are the reason why I continue to fight for my dream of “making positivity the new reality” for as many people as humanly possible.
Most importantly, you are actively making the world a more positive place for all of us.
And for that, I cannot thank you enough.
How do you express gratitude in your life? Is expressing your gratitude something that you do consistently, or is it something that you could do more frequently? Either way, jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!