“The world is full of bullies, selfish assholes and criminals. What makes you think that you can make any difference when the whole world is against your message of positivity?”
That question was asked to me after a recent speaking engagement, and I’m sure that there might be someone reading this blog post who might feel the same way as she did.
If so, here was my answer to her:
“Sure, there are definitely a lot of jerks in this world, but there are way more people who are genuinely kind, generous and loving. That’s a fact.”
She shook her head and called me naive (which I’ve gotten used to pretty quickly, considering that I run a blog called “The Positivity Solution.”)
Nothing will change my mind on this simple truth.
There are more of us.
It’s Time to Wake-Up
If you’ve been hypnotized by the information that’s relentlessly attacking our brains on the 24-hour news channels, social media, and practically everywhere else, I could understand why you would think that the world is a very negative place.
I live in Los Angeles, and it’s not an uncommon occurrence that the news will lead with murders, rapes, and robberies. Hell, I just read a few hours ago that one of the former Power Rangers allegedly killed his roommate with a samurai sword, for crying out loud.
The more horrific the news is, the more we will hear of it. The more tragic the news is, the more that we’ll talk about it.
I’m not going to sit here and say that we should stick our head in the sand and pretend that bad news doesn’t exist. I’m just saying that we don’t need to marinate in it for 24 hours a day.
More importantly, we need to wake-up to the fact that good news happens too and it happens everywhere.
I’ll take it one step further.
Good news happens much more often than bad news does. In fact, it’s not even close. But when was the last time that you saw an incredibly positive news story shown on the news nonstop on every major network and news channel for a week straight?
You haven’t. Neither have I. But I’m sure that you could come up with a list of negative stories that have run nonstop on the news, right?
Because of this, the biggest lie of all has been given power and attention that it doesn’t deserve. The lie is that the world is a dangerous and evil place, and no one can be trusted.
This isn’t close to being true.
Don’t let what you see consistently on the news, social media, or anywhere else put you into a trance of negativity and despair. The world is a positive place.
The key is being awake enough to see it.
Restoring Our Faith in Humanity
Here’s what I believe.
We all live in a world of good, loving, and friendly people.
Here’s a perfect example of what I’m talking about.
Over the holidays, I took my youngest daughter (she’s 3) out to the mall for a daddy-daughter shopping trip. And as always, she asked to ride the little kiddie train inside of the mall.
There was a little boy who was behind us in line, and his mom didn’t have any cash on her to buy him a ticket (she didn’t realize that it was “cash only” to ride the train until the train attendant told her.) Of course, it was a no-brainer for me to give her the $2 that was needed for her son to ride the train, and as a result the boy was deliriously happy.
Believe it or not, that wasn’t the special part. That was coming next.
As the kids were riding the train, the mom of the little boy went to the nearby ATM and withdrew enough money (about $20) to pay for all of the kids on the train to have another ride. Score! All of the kids cheered wildly and the parents (including me) were super appreciative.
It was about to get even better.
Once that ride was over and a new group of kids were about to go on the train, another parent who watched the previous act of generosity, offered to pay for a free ride for this new group of kids. It was the coolest thing that I have seen in a long time–complete strangers cheering, sharing kindness, and being generous just because it made people happy.
For anyone out there who doesn’t believe that positivity can be contagious, I’m here to tell you that it is. In less than 30 minutes at a kiddie train in the mall, I saw it happen. There are numerous other times in my life where I’ve seen a “positivity outbreak” (I just made that term up and I’m rolling with it.) Many of those stories I’ve shared here on this blog.
Stories like this would never make the news, but they happen all of the time. Literally everywhere.
I’m thinking that it’s time to shift our focus.
Yes, There Are More of Us
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there are more kind, loving and positive people than there are negative people.
Don’t believe me?
You are one of those people, aren’t you? You personally know of more good people than bad people, right? If so, then you (and every other good, loving, and friendly person who you know) have a responsibility to do something very important.
You have a responsibility to restore the balance by shifting your focus.
There may be workplace bullies in this world, but there are more people who are committed to making work an enjoyable experience.
There may be criminals in this world, but there are more people who are dedicated law-abiding citizens making the world a better place.
There may be shady, no-good liars in this world, but there are more people who are trustworthy and honest.
There may be selfish people in this world, but there are more people who would be willing to give you the shirts off their backs at a moment’s notice.
There may be rude people in this world, but there are more people who will treat you with kindness, respect and love.
Am I deluded for thinking this way? Some people may think so.
All I know is that there are more people out there who are committed to making this world a more positive place. We might not be as loud or get as much airtime as the negative stories of the world, but we still have a voice.
And it’s up to us to use our voices to change the world.
Do you believe that there are more positive people than negative people in this world? Jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!