I think that it’s time that you stop talking.
I’m not trying to be rude, but seriously–stop talking.
Before you think this another one of my infamous April Fools pranks, I promise that I’m being dead serious. This topic is too important to mess around with.
Speaking of important, we all have a dream right?
- Maybe it’s about finding a better job.
- Maybe it’s about finding true love.
- Maybe it’s about losing all of that extra weight and finally getting in shape.
- Maybe it’s about leaving a toxic relationship.
- Maybe it’s about going back to school.
- Maybe it’s about writing that book, starting that blog or releasing that album.
- Maybe it’s about getting professional help to deal with an addiction, health problem or personal issue that has been plaguing us.
- Maybe it’s about getting out of debt and building a savings account.
- Maybe it’s about confronting that big fear that’s been holding us back from living our best lives.
- Maybe it’s simply about being happy and finding the inner peace that’s eluding us.
Truthfully, the issue isn’t about the dream.
The real issue is that most people make a huge mistake after they decide on their dream (or any life change, to be honest.)
They start talking.
Usually, way too much.
My hope is that you won’t be one of those people. Your dream deserves the gift of your silence.
Talk is Still Cheap
There’s a reason why the saying “talk is cheap” has withstood the test of time.
That’s because “talking” is a half-step ahead of doing nothing.
Sure, it’s not nothing, but it is pretty close (if you don’t believe me, just ask my former coworker)
Keeping it as real as possible, being a big-talker requires no skill, no talent and virtually no effort. It’s incredibly easy to talk about doing something, but it’s an entirely different thing to actually go out and get it done.
And without question, one of the biggest barriers to doing big things in our lives is talking about doing big things in our lives.
Here’s a perfect example of this:
I used to be neighbors with a woman who used to be fairly overweight.
For years, she spent a lot of time talking about how “this was going to be the year” where she gets into shape, or how “this diet/workout plan/magic blender-juicer thingy” was going to be the thing that finally gets her into shape.
And for years, nothing happened.
After not seeing this woman for close to two years, I bumped into her at the grocery store a few weeks ago with her new boyfriend and she looked amazing. For real, she looked absolutely incredible.
So, of course I had to ask her how she did it. Here’s what she said (I’m paraphrasing, of course):
I realized that for years, all I was doing was talking about getting in shape. As soon as I decided to shut up and quit acting like talking was the same thing as doing something, everything changed. For the first time in my life, I decided not to tell a soul that I was going to get myself back in shape. I just kept my mouth shut and did it. Once I quit talking, people stopped asking me, ‘So, when are you going to get started?’, and now they’re all asking me, ‘So, how did you do it?’ Believe me, that never gets old.”
As I walked out of the store that day, I couldn’t help but to reflect back on her amazing transformation and how everything changed for her once she simply decided to stop talking about it and decided to “be about it” instead.
And then I realized that any worthwhile accomplishment in my life also came when I shut my mouth, stopped telling everyone about the “big thing” that I was going to do, and just did the damn thing instead.
This is the epic gift of silence.
Talking is not action.
In fact, if anything it gets in the way of action.
Action Expresses Priorities
Let me ask you a question:
If you were dating someone who enthusiastically says that he/she “loves you more than anything,” but this person constantly flakes out on dates with you, consistently treats you in a demeaning manner, and refuses to bring you around his/her friends or family under any circumstances–would you think that he/she really loves you?
Unless you’re a complete fool (and I know that you’re not), the only answer that makes any logical sense is that he/she does not really love you.
How can I be so sure of this?
Because whenever a person’s words and actions are not in sync, you must always go with their actions.
Actions always tell the true story about what a person is really about.
Even more telling, is that a person’s actions also reveals their true priorities too.
Let’s revisit your goals for a minute.
If your goal is to start your own business in 2015, but you spend all of your free time playing video games, surfing Facebook, watching DVR’ed shows, and taking 3-hour naps everyday–does it really matter that you’ve said that your goal is to start your own business?
You’ve made it clear what your real priorities are, and it’s definitely not starting your own business.
The same logic applies to every goal in your life–whether it’s leaving a toxic relationship, getting a college degree, losing weight or putting away a year’s salary into your savings account.
If you choose to be real with yourself, ask yourself this: Are you just messing around by talking about your goals and doing nothing to make them happen, or are you truly serious about your goals by taking consistent action while talking less?
One thing is for sure:
It’s your actions, not your words, that will always tell the story about what your real priorities are.
The Time for Talking is Over
You might already know this, but I came up with the idea for launching a positivity blog in 2010.
For three long years, all that I did was “talk” about launching a blog that would hopefully inspire others to make the world a more positive place.
For three long years, I talked, talked, and talked while doing nothing.
The only reason why you’re reading these words now is because one day in 2013, I decided to quit talking and make the leap.
The tough love in this post is my way to ensure that you don’t burn precious years off of your timeline like I did by just talking about your goals for years and years.
Please, for the love of all things big and small, if there’s something that your soul is screaming for you to do–then stop talking about it and start doing it!
It’s fine to mention your big dream to others or to share your dream with a trusted accountability buddy who will keep you on track. But once you’ve done that once or twice (at the most), then it’s time to shut up and get to work.
Most importantly, refuse to let talking about your dream become a cheap substitute for actually creating your dream.
Your dreams deserve your dedication, your focus, and if you’re serious, your silence as well. That’s because there is no amount of talking in the world that will make your dreams a reality.
If you have something to say about your dreams, let your actions do the talking from now on.
That’s the only thing that the world really needs to hear.
Is there an area of your life where you need to quit talking and start doing? If so, jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!