This is it–the last Monday in January!
That means that this is the final entry in my four-part January series to ensure that we start off this year as positively as possible. Here’s what we’ve covered so far in 2015:
1) Start by asking yourself the question that will determine the direction for your entire year (The Question That You Need to Ask Yourself)
2) Next, find the courage to push through the temporary pain and discomfort that’s an inevitable part (sorry, but it is) of making any meaningful change in our lives (Pushing Through Pain)
3) Then, take the first steps to ruthlessly remove any toxic habit (or toxic person) that will slow down your progress in 2015 (Release to Rise)
Now it’s time for the final step, and in a sense, it’s probably the easiest one of all.
And it’s also the most important, by far.
The Motivation to Keep Going
If you’re reading this, I’m going to make two educated guesses about you.
Whether it’s giving up a destructive habit, learning to love yourself, being more courageous, or something else incredibly positive–I believe:
1) That you’ve decided that this is the year where you’re going to make those goals a reality, and
2) That you’re already taking steps to do so.
So, now that that’s out of the way, what happens when things get tough as we move toward our goals? (And things will get tough, by the way.)
For example, here are some less-than-pleasant things that could be waiting for you in 2015:
- You could get hurt, sick, or both.
- You could lose your focus and inspiration.
- You could be relentlessly tempted by the things that you’re committing to eliminate from your life (junk food, excessive spending, cigarettes, choosing unhealthy relationships, etc.)
- You could be sabotaged by people in your life who may not want to see you succeed.
- You could be too tired, too broke, or too beaten up by life to keep going.
- You could allow your fears and insecurities to convince you that you can’t do it.
When these things (or something else) show up in your life to slow you down, it would be easy to give up and convince yourself that you can’t do what you deeply want to do. Instead, I want you to do something else.
I want you to remember why you started in the first place.
The Unstoppable Power of an Epic “Why”
I want you to think of the one thing that you’re committing to do in 2015. Or worded differently, picture the one thing that will make your life much more positive than it is right now once you achieve it.
Got it in your mind? Ok, good. Here’s my question for you:
In other words, why did you start on the challenging path to achieve this goal? I can promise you that your answer has the power to change everything in your life.
But before you answer it, you need to do this right. A lame-ass “why” doesn’t have the power to change anything. And in case you’re wondering, here’s the difference a lame “why” and an epic one:
Lame: “I’m giving up smoking because it’s not good for me,” or Epic: “I’m giving up smoking because I will be damned if I don’t do everything within my power to be alive for my kids’ graduations, weddings, and the birth of my future grand kids.”
Lame: “I’m finally going to launch my business/blog/awesome project because it’s something that I’ve always wanted to do,” or Epic: “I’m finally going to launch my business/blog/awesome project because I know that it will positively impact the lives of thousands (maybe millions?) of people once I do. I am certain that the world will be a better place once I take action on this.”
Lame: “I’m leaving my significant other because I’m not happy in this relationship,” or Epic: “I’m leaving my significant other because I’m tired of the soul-crushing feeling of being his/her doormat on a daily basis, and I deserve to experience what true, healthy love feels like before I die.”
Lame: “I’m choosing to increase my earning potential because being broke sucks,” or Epic: “I’m choosing to increase my earning potential because I will never again look my daughter in the eyes and tell her that she has to wear shoes that don’t fit and clothes with holes in them because I can’t afford to buy her anything else.”
See the difference?
Whatever it is, you must be fully armed with the best “Why” humanly possible in order to make your goal a reality this year. Or as the brilliant Simon Sinek has already said perfectly, we must Start with Why.
It’s your “why” that will keep you moving forward when it would be so much easier to quit.
It’s your “why” that will re-energize you when you’re struggling stand up after life has viciously knocked you down.
It’s your “why” that will remind that you’re very capable of reaching your goals, even though your fears and insecurities are hellbent on telling you otherwise.
This is the power of why, and that’s why I want you to remember why you started toward your goal in 2015.
Every. Single. Day.
Will This Be Your Year?
Can I share with something with you?
You already knew exactly what you needed to do in order to make this year your best year ever before you came here.
You didn’t need the blog posts from the past three weeks (or any other blog post on The Positivity Solution, for that matter) to tell you what to do.
Most importantly, “knowing what to do” doesn’t (and never will) change anything. The only way that real change happens is if we can find the willingness, perseverance and courage to actually put this information into action.
So, here’s my final question for you: Will this be your best year ever, or another year just like last year?
Only you can answer that.
Here’s the good news: If you can remember clearly why you’re choosing to fight for a better life, why you’re choosing to push through temporary pain to reach your goals, and why you’re committing to release the things and people who no longer serve you, then there is no doubt that you can have anything that you want in 2015.
It all begins and ends with why you started in the first place.
Simple question: Why did you start toward your goal(s) in 2015? Jump into the comment section below and make your voice heard!