It’s time to dig deep this week.
In keeping with January’s theme of bringing you actionable advice each Monday to create an awesome 2015, this week’s topic is another way to make that happen.
First, let’s recap what we’ve covered so far in 2015.
Two weeks ago, I asked you to ask yourself a life-altering question (and to answer it honestly too.)
This week, it’s time to rise up.
And as usual, just because the results will be positive, it doesn’t mean that the process will be easy.
My promise to you is that it will be worth it.
Let’s get to it.
The Necessity of Life Detox
Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of something you’ve been carrying until you feel the weight of its release.” -Unknown
The above quote is so true, isn’t it?
I don’t believe that it is possible to rise as high as we can without releasing the things that are keeping us down.
I like to call this process “life detoxing,” and the benefits are way too numerous to mention in this blog post (but that won’t stop me from trying anyway.)
Around this time of year, everyone likes to talk about the new things that they want to do in the new year (learn a new language, meditate more often, start a new business, be more positive, etc.), and all of those things are cool.
I’m coming from a different angle in 2015. I want you to focus what you need to stop doing in 2015.
If you focused on removing one destructive habit (or person) that’s slowing down your progress toward your best life, can you imagine how dramatically different this year will be for you?
So, let’s start here. What do you need to release?
- Is it your excuses?
- Is it keeping fake friends in your life?
- Is it negative thinking?
- Is it needless clutter?
- Is it fear and/or anxiety?
- Is it being incredibly mean or judgmental toward yourself?
- Is it junk food?
- Is it a lack of self-belief?
- Is it laziness?
- Is it an unhealthy romantic relationship/marriage?
That’s what we need to figure out.
The Power of Removal
I recently shared on The Positivity Solution’s Facebook page that I successfully completed a goal that I previously thought would be impossible for me:
I went the entire calendar year of 2014 without drinking soda.
Considering that I used to drink 2-3 cans of soda a day in 2013, I’m still blown away that I was actually able to pull that off. In 2015, my personal focus is on removing foods with high amounts of added sugar (wish me luck!)
Believe it or not, kicking the soda habit isn’t what I want to focus on.
It’s about the feeling that came afterward.
Besides the obvious health benefits (better digestion, more restful sleep, more focused concentration, more energy, etc.), I felt something that was so much more meaningful.
I felt free.
Once I removed that one pesky habit from my life, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was like I was wearing dirty eyeglasses my entire life, and finally, someone cleaned them for me so I could finally see (or more accurately, experience) what I was missing my entire life.
That is no exaggeration either.
If you’ve released something/someone that is unhealthy from your life, I’m sure that you can relate to that feeling.
But like I said, this isn’t about soda.
This is about the freedom that comes from removing unhealthy things, people and habits from our lives.
There is no way that we can rise to our fullest potential without making this our #1 priority.
Avoiding the Trap
Chances are that if you’re reading this, you’ve already experienced the freedom of leaving an unhealthy relationship or quitting an unhealthy habit.
It’s pretty soul-nourishing, right?
That’s why I don’t want you to fall into the trap of making excuses for why you can’t do it again in 2015.
Here are some common excuses that I’ve used or heard in my life:
- “Even though this is a dead-end relationship, we’ve been together so long and I don’t want to start over again.”
- “I don’t have the willpower to stop (insert unhealthy habit here.)”
- “I’m surrounded by negativity, so I can’t help but to be negative.”
- “I don’t have the time to remove all of the clutter in my house.”
- “I’m scared of trying something new and looking stupid.”
- “My friend isn’t always an ass. He/she can be nice once in a while.”
- “I’m fine with how things are.”
I am begging you not to spend anymore of your precious energy on giving life to your excuses and/or hanging onto relationships that should have died years ago.
Am I saying that you need to walk out on your emotionally-abusive spouse, quit your soul-destroying job, and throw out every piece of junk food from your cupboard as soon as you’re done reading this blog post?
What I am saying is that if something/someone is consistently causing you more pain than joy in your life, then at the very least, you need to come up with an exit strategy as soon as you’re done reading this blog post. Your life is way too precious (and short) to dream up mindless stall tactics to distract you from doing what you know is necessary.
I’ve already talked about the life-saving need to ruthlessly remove toxic people from your life, but now I’m asking you to do the same with anything that is adding needless toxicity to your life, starting today.
In the end, we will never be able to rise as high as we can until we release the things, people and habits that are keeping us down.
If you want to positively transform your life, choose one thing that you’re committing to remove from your life in 2015, and then start now to make it happen.
The truth is that we will never understand the how heavy something is until we experience the weight of its release–and I want all of us to experience that feeling this year.
It’s the only way that we can be truly free.
What are you committing to release/give up in 2015? Have you ever experienced the soul-nourishing feeling of releasing an unhealthy habit and/or relationship? If so, jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!