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Below is a list of all of the posts that I’ve ever written here. If you are interested in getting yourself completely caught up, each post is listed below (in reverse chronological order) with a brief description of what it’s about.
Scan through the brief descriptions below, and I’m confident that you’ll find something in the list that will help you, inspire you, or maybe even motivate you to change your life.
Feel free to dig in below, Solutionists–enjoy!
The Positivity Solution Post List
Silencing the Haters: Ah, the haters. They’re such a pleasant bunch to deal with, aren’t they? Well, if you’re interested in zipping their annoying lips forever, you’re definitely going to want to read this one.
The Love That Will Save The World: This blog post addresses the least talked about (but most important) form of love that exists in the world today: Self love. It’s time to get real about how we can use this love to save the world.
The 5 Unshakable Traits of Mental Toughness: Do you consider yourself to be mentally tough? I mean, really mentally tough? Check out these five life-altering traits to see how well you stack up.
The Pain That You Should Be Thankful For: It’s Thanksgiving week! So, what are you thankful for? If you’re not sure, reading this blog post will give you something new (and unexpected) to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Simply put, this might be the most important blog post that I have ever written.
42 Things That You Don’t Know About Me: November 2nd marked my 42nd birthday! And in what has become a fun tradition around here each year on my birthday, I’m sharing 42 things that you might not know about me. If you really want to get to know the guy behind the words on this blog, now’s your chance.
No, You Can’t Be “Too Nice”: Have you ever been told that you are “too nice”? If so, lean in close to your screen, because I have a secret that you need to hear: There is no such thing as being too nice. Read this article to see why this is true (and please share it with the person who said you were “too nice” too–he/she needs to read it more than you do.)
Pushing Through Pain: Living the most positive life possible means that you will need to be willing to push through pain. Consistently. Are you up for the challenge? Let’s find out.
Bullied No More–The End of Workplace Bullying: If you’ve been around here for a while, you probably already know that I detest bullies of any kind–and workplace bullies are some of the worst on earth. If you are one of the 65 million Americans (or one of the millions all over the world) whose lives are negatively being affected by workplace bullying, here are some strategies for dealing with this soul-murdering epidemic once and for all.
How to Deal With the Loss of Your Best Friend (Guest Post): Have you ever felt like you’ve outgrown a friend who you were once really close with? If so, it can definitely be a challenging experience. This guest post from Mike Jones, a professional growth will help you to understand it better.
You’re Going to Die Soon: Yikes…what is a blog post with this title doing on The Positivity Solution? It’s here to inspire you into action, of course. And there isn’t a moment to spare, so read it now.
Addition by Subtraction: If you have a toxic person in your life, “addition by subtraction” is the most positive thing that you can do for yourself. Your sanity and well-being may depend on you giving yourself this life-saving gift, today.
What Are You Willing to Give Up?: If you want to experience your life’s dream, then you’re going to need to make peace with one thing: the fact that you’ll need to give up something you enjoy in order to get it. The question is, are you willing to do it?
Being a Fraud: Dealing With the Impostor Syndrome: Have you ever felt like you were fooling the world into believing that you were more capable than you really are? If so, then you might be suffering from Impostor Syndrome. It’s time to stop lying to ourselves and start telling ourselves the truth, today.
Love or Fear: The Choice That’s Facing America (and the World): This has been a really bad week in America. Senseless deaths and violence are becoming way too common, and now we’re facing a critical choice: love or fear. So, what’s it going to be?
The Illusion of Better: There is a word out there that is so dangerous and so destructive, that it will be impossible to create a more positive world as long as it is allowed to exist. The word is “better” and it’s time to make it extinct, effective immediately.
After the Slash: Your happiness, success, your health, the job of your dreams, inner peace, true love, even your sanity depends solely on this one thing. It’s called the slash, and you cannot live another moment without a full understanding of its power over your life.
When Others Want You To Stay Small: As strange as this may sound, there are some people out there who desperately want you to live a smaller life than the life you’re capable of living. If you’re dealing with someone like that, it’s time to find the courage to make a stand and start living large, before it’s too late.
Make Someone’s Day, Every Day: Want to learn how to create a ripple effect that could have the power to positively change the world, starting today? If so, jump into this blog post for all of the details, my friend.
The Gift in Our Pain: Is it possible that there is a positive gift in our most painful moments? It is possible, but the key is, can you see it? Let’s find out.
Being an Optimist vs. Being a Realist: So, do you consider yourself to be an optimist or a realist? Admittedly, one of those terms makes a lot of sense to me, while the other one makes very little sense at all. Which one is which, you ask? Read this blog post and find out.
The Positivity of Presence: Are you fully present? Are you in control of your technology or do you let your technology control you? Either way, it’s time to raise our awareness and focus on being consistently present in our interactions with others.
Being Stronger Than Your Excuses: A lot of people make the life-diminishing decision to fight for their excuses instead of fighting for their best lives instead. Whatever you do, don’t go down that dark road. You’re stronger than that, and this blog post is written to convince you of that fact.
Grow or Die: In life, we’re all presented with a simple choice: growth or death. If you chose growth, inside of this blog post is how to make the process as simple as possible.
Respect Is Not Earned: Is respect something that’s earned or is it something that you should give away freely? Before you answer, fair warning–there’s only one answer to this question that makes any logical sense (hint: it’s in the title of this blog post).
The Anti-Logic of Turning Friends Into Enemies: Have you ever been guilty of taking out your stress on your friends and loved ones? If so, and worse–if you think that they’ll put up with that indefinitely, you’re kidding yourself. It’s time to make a better choice, starting today.
Your Beliefs Are Irrelevant: When it comes to positively changing the world, do our beliefs really matter? Not really. There’s something else that matters more, and here’s a hint: It’s not our actions either.
Bottling It In (Guest Post): Do you have the challenge of keeping your emotions and feelings bottled in, instead of expressing them appropriately? If so, then this guest post from the fabulous Nahla Zaki will help.
Making Believers Out of Skeptics: If you have big hopes and dreams, be prepared for the skeptics to come out in force to slow you down with their “well-meaning” advice. If you want to make them believers, here’s how to do it.
The Dream of Finally Making Work Work: After many years, the dream has finally been realized. And as always, it could not have been done without you. Juicy details inside…
Finding Strength Through Letting Go (Guest Post): Are you choosing to cling onto the things and people who you know are no longer serving your best interest? If so, then this guest post–written by career strategist and corporate trainer extraordinaire, Sherry Dodge–will help you to find the strength and the courage to let go.
Safety is an Illusion: Do you believe that it’s safer to sit on the sidelines of life instead of jumping into the game? It’s not. The real risk is in playing it safe.
It’s Time to Make Kindness the New Normal: What’s the quickest and most powerful way to positively change the world? Kindness, of course. It’s about time that we make it the new normal. Are you in?
3 Unconventional Ways to Ensure That 2016 is Better Than 2015: Tired of the same advice to make your new year better than last year? If so, check out these 3 unconventional ways for you to make some positive changes this year.
Feeling Good Will Never Be Good Enough: This might sound strange, but “feeling good” will never help you to reach your goals and dreams. Thankfully, there’s a better alternative, and it’s inside of this blog post.
The Courage to Say No: Are you a people pleaser? The kind of person who says “Yes” to things, when deep down you’re dying inside to say “No”? If so, then this blog post is for you. It’s time to be introduced to the soul-nourishing power of no.
You Have Nothing to Prove: Have you ever felt the need to prove your worth to others? If so, today is the day that we put an end to that silliness. Regardless of what you might think, you have nothing to prove to anyone.
Stop Waiting Until You Feel Like It: Are you type of person who needs to “feel like” taking action before you actually take action? If so, you are setting yourself up to live a smaller life than the one you deserve. Here’s how to break free from that destructive habit before it’s too late.
Falling Into the Trap: Have you ever felt like your friends on social media (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.) are all living happier, more exciting, and better lives than you are? If so, then you have fallen into the trap. Here is how to dig yourself out of it.
It’s Time to Decide: The secret to living our most positive lives possible is a simple one: We need to decide to do it. Do you think that it is more complicated than that? If so, then this blog post is for you.
Bringing the Energy: Do you know the two traits that the most positive people in the world have going for them? It’s energy and enthusiasm, and if you have ever wondered why these are both so critical to living our most positive lives possible, then you will definitely want to read this one.
Finding Your Voice (Guest Post): Do you feel like you are often taken advantage of because you don’t speak up? Or equally as bad, do you find yourself frequently saying “yes” to things when you know that you should really be saying “no”? If so, then this guest post–written by career strategist and corporate trainer extraordinaire, Sherry Dodge–is one that you need to read.
Forgive to be Free: If you’ve ever had to forgive someone for deeply hurting you, or for hurting someone who you love, then I’m sure that you know how difficult it can be. If you’re ready to release the pain, anger and bitterness of being deeply hurt by someone, then reading this post will help.
3 Steps to Overcome Worry and Find Peace: Do you worry a lot? If so, you’re not alone. I worry a lot too. The bad news is that there really isn’t any way to make our worries go away completely. The good news is that we absolutely can follow these 3 practical steps to ensure that our worries don’t control our lives.
Tough Love (Guest Post): If you’re a people-pleaser, have a hard time saying “no” to people, or you struggle setting clear boundaries with the people in your life, then you’ll love this guest post from the fabulous Whitney Hoover, the founder of the blog, Nursing My Appetite.
Knowing When to End Friendships: Have you ever heard the quote, “the only thing worse than being alone is wishing that you were”? This is especially true when it comes to the friendships in our lives. If you’re wondering if you’re currently in a friendship that needs to end, you’ll be clear after reading this blog post.
Necessary Confrontations: Do you hate confrontations and do anything that you can to avoid them? If so, you’re not alone. Unfortunately, dealing with conflict is a necessary part of living a positive life, and inside of this blog post are some tips to make the process more bearable.
The Danger of “Supposed to”: There are two incredibly dangerous words that can destroy your hopes of living a fully positive life: “Supposed to.” If you have been saying those words instead of fully living intentionally, then it’s time to make a better choice.
Why Kindness Keeps You Saner and More Engaged at Work (Guest Post): Do you believe that kindness in the workplace is a solid business strategy? I do. So does Christopher Fox, Ph.D, the founder of Kindness Communication, who shares how kindness will keep you sane, engaged and effective at work.
Getting off the Fence: If you have a big goal that you want to achieve, it will never happen by choosing to sit on the fence. Today is the day where you jump off, for good.
The Art of the Apology: Do you know a person who is incapable of admitting that he/she is wrong? Unfortunately, we all do. In this blog post is some much-needed advice for the person who doesn’t understand the power of being wrong, and how to apologize the right way.
The Price of Perfectionism: Are you a perfectionist? Or even worse, do you actually think that being a perfectionist is a good thing? It’s not–and in this blog post, it’s my hope to convince you to avoid this habit like the plague. Especially if you’re interested in living a positive life.
The Epic Gift of Silence: If you’re ready to make a big positive change in your life, there’s a very pesky (and very destructive) habit that could derail your progress before you even start: talking too damn much. If you’re tempted to go down that route, here’s my sincerest attempt to convince you otherwise.
Your Happiness Can’t Wait: If you have ever believed that you can wait for happiness, or even worse, that happiness is a choice, you’ll definitely think twice after reading this.
Keeping It Real: Believe it or not, on April Fool’s Day, I wrote this blog post to convince everyone that I had switched allegiances by fully embracing a life of negativity and pessimism. And people fell for it! If you want to see how a good April Fool’s joke is done, read this.
Being Your Own Hero: Do you need a hero? If so, I have some very good news for you. Your days of waiting for a hero are now officially over.
What You Allow: Inside of this post is the only motivational quote that you will ever need to remember for the rest of your life. If you’ve ever been treated like crap, or if you are currently being treated like crap, stop what you’re doing and read this post right now.
Do You Really Want It?: Everyone wants a more positive life in one way or another. The real question is do you just kinda want a more positive life, or do you really want it? That’s the only question that matters. Let’s see where you stand on the issue.
The Easiest Way to Help Someone: There are so many ways to help people, but there isn’t a way that’s easier (and more powerful) than simply doing what’s inside of this blog post. Want to positively rock someone’s world? Read on, my friend.
Two Words to Change the World: Is it possible to positively change the world using just two words? Definitely. And it’s so much easier than you may think. The only question is: Are you ready to consistently do it?
The Insanity of Being Intimidated by People: Are you the type of person who allows other people to intimidate you? If so, you’re not alone. It’s time to reclaim your power and your courage, starting now.
We’re The Same: What’s the key to creating a more positive world? The long-overdue realization that we’re really all way more similar than we are different. If you don’t believe that, then this is a blog post that you really need to read.
There Are More of Us: Is the world a hopelessly negative place that’s full of bullies, liars and criminals? Nope, not even close. There is way more positivity than negativity in the world. The question is, are you awake enough to see it?
Remember Why You Started: When the going gets tough and life punches you hard in the mouth on the road toward your goals, there’s one thing that will keep you going when you’re ready to quit. It’s all inside of this blog post.
Release to Rise: It is impossible to rise as high as possible in our lives without releasing the things (and people) that are weighing us down. If you are finally ready to rise and experience true freedom, then this is the blog post for you.
The Question That You Need to Ask Yourself: There’s a question that you’ve probably been asked a million times in your life, but today, it’s time to dig deep and finally answer it for real. Fair warning, this may be harder than you think.
3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World: Staying consistently positive is one of the hardest things to do in this world. If you’re struggling to keep your positive vibe going strong, here are three super simple tips that will help you enormously.
Living for Someday: If you value your career, your health, your happiness and your sanity, then you need to start avoiding the word “someday” like the plague. If you’ve been known to say this life-destroying word, here’s your motivation to stop saying it ever again.
Go Where You’re Wanted: Have you ever been anywhere where you weren’t wanted? Or worse, are you currently staying in a place where you’re not wanted? If either of those are the case, then stop what you’re doing and read this blog post.
The Other Side: Did you know that there’s a part of all of us that can directly sabotage our happiness and success if we’re not aware of it? The good news is that today is the day that we officially become aware, and most importantly, do something about it.
The Importance of Standing Up: This past week, I had my work plagiarized by an Australian bikini model (yes, seriously.) Due to popular demand, I was asked to address this issue in a blog post, and here it is. It’s time to stand up.
The VIP Section: Does everyone deserve to be in your inner circle? Allow me to answer this one for you: No. It’s time to put up the velvet rope and make it harder for some people to get in.
Developing Resiliency: Do you know the most important positive trait to master if you want to live your best life? Gratitude? Optimism? Patience? All are great, but if you deeply desire to live a positive life, then there isn’t a skill that’s more important to master than resilience.
Never Too Late: Do you believe that it’s “too late” to go after the life that you want? Think again. It’s only too late if you say that it is.
You Can’t Run Forever: Are you the type of person who tends to run away from your problems instead of face them? If so, I’ve been there too, and it’s not a good place to be. It’s time to stop running, starting today.
Overcoming the Need to be Liked: Do you currently suffer from the need (not “wanting,” I’m talking about the need) to be liked by everyone in order to be happy? If so, I’ve been there too. Here’s the only way to kick the habit, permanently.
What Judging Others Reveals About You: People who harshly judge other people reveal a lot about themselves to the world. If you’ve ever wondered what they’re really showing to the world by judging others, you don’t need to look any further than this blog post.
The Response: Do you know how to positively respond to disrespect, hostility, and outright hatred? If not, you need to read this. It’s time to get really personal for this one.
3 Myths About Being Strong That You Need to Stop Believing Today: If you’ve ever dealt with emotional or physical burnout of any kind, this blog post is a must-read. There are a lot of myths floating around about what it means to be strong. It’s time to set the record straight.
Your Most Powerful Asset: Do you know the one thing that completely shapes your reality, you’re always in control of it, it’s completely free of charge, and your eventual unhappiness and failure in life are guaranteed if you don’t have it? It’s all in this blog post.
7 Ways That People Die Before They’re Actually Dead: Are you currently losing the battle with any of life’s 7 silent killers? Let’s find out before it’s too late.
The Truth About Motivation: If you think that being highly motivated is the quickest way to live an amazing life, I’m here to give you something else that’s so much better.
Better Than You Found It: Do you know what’s the simplest way for anyone to instantly make the world a more positive place? If not, you’ll definitely want to read this.
Walking Confidently Toward Happiness (Guest Post): We all have a critical choice to either choose our fears and self-doubt, or we can choose our happiness. This guest post from the multi-talented Dr. Meghan Elkins, shows us how to make sure we consistently walk toward the right choice.
The Beginning of Everything: Believe it or not, The Positivity Solution just celebrated its first birthday! But before I hit the imaginary “Launch” button on my Positivity Solution idea a year ago, I had to fight through some serious self-doubt first. Here’s how I did it and how you can do it too.
Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously: Do you take yourself too seriously? If so, knock it off! It’s time to lighten up, starting today. It might be the most positive thing that you’ll ever do for yourself, and for the world.
I’m Still Here: If you’ve ever had to overcome a huge, life-altering challenge in your life, the fact that you’re still here means something. If you’re wondering what that “something” is, then you’ll want to read this.
The Art of Presence (Guest Post): Is there a more useful habit in the world than learning how to be consistently present? Check out this guest post from the fabulous Andrea Herbert, the founder of the blog The Courtesy Blueprint, to show us how it’s done (even in less than ideal circumstances.)
The Thing That You Should Value Most: Do you know that the most valuable thing in this world is something that many people actually value the least? If you’re one of those people, consider this blog post to be your wake-up call.
Cultivating Optimism (Guest Post): Did you know that it is very possible to cultivate a spirit of optimism? It is, and the process may be simpler than you think. Courtesy of Mona Harris, from Small Things Good.
Conversation with Fear: Have you ever wanted to talk to your fears to see how illogical and irrational they really are? In this blog post, I actually had that conversation for you. And when it was over, I killed fear forever. Yes, seriously. If you don’t believe me, it’s all inside of this blog post.
No Excuse for Rudeness: Some people may tell you otherwise, but there is no excuse for rudeness. None whatsoever. It’s time to stop with the lame excuses and raise the bar about how we treat each other, starting today.
Number One: Do you believe that putting yourself first is an incredibly selfish and narcissistic thing to do? It’s not. It’s actually one of the healthiest things (mentally, emotionally, and physically) that you can do for yourself. Here’s why.
The Real Problem: There are a lot of problems facing this world, but there isn’t one that’s more devastating than this one. The question is: Do you care enough to fix it? Let’s find out.
The Road to Mediocrity: The road to mediocrity is a dangerous one. Thankfully, it’s also easily avoided too. If you’re on that life-destroying road right now, here’s how to permanently get off of it.
There is No One Else: There is only one person who has the power to save the world. Even if you’ve been living under a rock for your entire life, I’m certain that you know who this person is too (Hint: It might not be who you think.)
Back to Basics: Have you ever wondered why aren’t people nicer to each other? Maybe it’s because they don’t know “The Basics.” The good news is that I’ve laid it all out in this blog post. So, are you consistently nice? Let’s find out together–you might be surprised.
The Brilliance of Quitting: Think that quitting is only for losers, wimps, and chumps? If so, read this and you’ll definitely have your mind changed.
Rise of the Nice Guy: It’s time to explode the insane myth that “nice guys/gals finish last.” A new revolution is about to start and I need your help to make it a reality.
The New Geniuses: Are the real geniuses in this world the people with multiple college degrees and an IQ that would make Einstein blush? Nope, not anymore. If you want to be truly successful you’re going to have to be a different kind of genius.
The Definition: How do you define yourself? If you don’t know the answer to that question, believe me, you should. We’re defining ourselves each and every day whether we know it or not, and it’s up to us to make our definitions work for us, not against us.
Fake Positivity: If you think that the biggest threat to positivity is negativity, think again. Fake positivity is the real threat, and it needs to be dealt with, quickly.
40 Lessons From a Year of Positivity: With a year of blogging officially under my belt, here are 40 most important lessons about positivity that I’ve learned in the past 12 months.
What’s Really Important: Let me ask you this: Do you know what’s really important? It’s easy for us to forget sometimes, but the goal of this post is to make sure that you never forget what’s really important ever again.
The Enemy Within: There is an enemy in our lives who wants nothing more than for us to live the most pitiful and sorry lives imaginable. The enemy is fear, and it’s time for us to stand up to this enemy and fight as if our lives depended on it…because truthfully, it does.
Paying the Price: Whenever we’re faced with a critical decision in our lives, we’ll be forced to answer an extremely important question: Are we willing to pay the price?
Just Today: Would you believe that the secret to happiness and success is inside two simple words? Believe it. Fair warning though, inside of this post is the most difficult thing that I will ever ask you to do.
A New Reality: On May 20, 2013, I decided to make the life-altering (and long overdue) decision to kill my old blog Cubepiphany, and re-brand it as The Positivity Solution. Here’s why I did it.
You Are Not Crazy For Wanting More (Guest Post): If you have ever thought that you were crazy for wanting more out of your job or your life, you won’t after reading this. Courtesy of the uber-fabulous Kelly Gurnett of Cordelia Calls it Quits.
Stop Complaining: There may not be a more destructive (and annoying) habit than chronic complaining. It’s time for us to wake up and end this life-decaying habit once and for all.
51 Ways to Change the World: Do you believe that changing the world is difficult? If so, here are 51 simple ways that you can use to positively change the world, starting today.
The Workplace Myth That Could Kill Your Career (Guest Post at Brazen Life): There are so many silly myths about positivity at work, but there isn’t one that’s more dangerous to your career than this one.
The 13 Coworkers You Never Want to Work With: If you can help it, these are the 13 coworkers that you want to avoid at all costs–especially if you want to keep your sanity.
The Customer is Always Right Must Die–Part 1: Part 1 of a 2-part blog series detailing the urgent need to kill of one of the most abusive phrases in American business history–The Customer is Always Right.
The Customer is Always Right Must Die–Part 2: Part 2 of a 2-part blog series detailing the urgent need to kill of one of the most abusive phrases in American business history–The Customer is Always Right.
The 21 Inescapable Laws of Customer Epicness: Wouldn’t it be great if all customers had a set of rules to follow before entering a store, restaurant, or any other place of business? Look no further, because here it is.