Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins
Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die?
Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none of us knows for sure. It could happen 45 years from now, it could happen sometime in 2015, hell–it could happen this afternoon.
Just like you, I sincerely hope that it doesn’t happen this afternoon, but just like you, I have no clue if it will.
One thing that we do know for sure is that our deaths will happen. It’s not a matter of if, it’s only a matter of when.
Since we all agree on this, why do we act like we have all of the time in the world to do the things that we’ve always wanted to do, or much more importantly, to be the person who we’ve always wanted to be?
Let me be real with you:
Our death is one of the few things in this world that is 100% guaranteed, and each moment that passes is bringing us closer to that moment when it will all come to an end. No matter how hard you try, there is absolutely nothing that you can do to stop the sand from pouring out of your hourglass as you’re reading these words.
Pretty sobering, isn’t it?
No, this isn’t going to be a depressing blog post about death and dying (C’mon–this place is called The Positivity Solution, remember? We don’t do that stuff around here, people.)
This is about choosing to live intentionally. I’m not talking about doing it next week, or tomorrow, or “when you have more time” (as if that day will ever come), and definitely not “someday.”
I’m talking about choosing to live right now.
We literally don’t have the time to spare, and if for some reason you think that you have plenty of time to go after your hopes and dreams, I’m here to give you the swift kick in the ass (lovingly, of course) that you desperately need and deserve.
No more hitting the snooze button, it’s time to wake up. Hopefully, before it’s too late.
The Most Dangerous Lie Of All
There are seven days in the week and someday is not one of them.” -Unknown
There are so many dangerous beliefs out there that will completely derail your happiness, success, and sanity. But there are few things worse than putting your faith in this seemingly harmless word:
Someday is not your friend.
It can steal your dreams, keep you hanging around in miserable situations far longer than you should, and slowly destroy your health without you even noticing that it’s happening.
That’s because “someday” is sneaky. It’s not as obvious of a life-stealer as fear, but as far as I’m concerned, it’s equally as dangerous. Maybe even more so.
Because it’s so easy to fall into someday’s life-destroying trap.
It’s easy to say that someday we’ll do what we’ve always dreamed of doing. Someday we’ll write that novel that’s been floating around in our brains forever. Someday we’ll develop the emotional maturity to stop yelling at people and acting like a 3-year old at the first sign of stress. Someday we’ll take action to lose the excess weight, get in shape and reclaim our health. Someday we’ll leave our emotionally-abusive relationships. Someday we’ll finally get our finances in order. Someday we’ll get professional help to deal with the deep-seated issues that have been silently tormenting us for years. Someday we’ll find inner peace.
Someday, someday, someday…
It’s like a warm security blanket that gives us the illusion that we’re actually going to do something about our hopes and dreams. It even feels good to say it.
Unfortunately, there’s a catch to this “someday” stuff, and it’s a big one.
What if someday never comes?
It won’t come, because it can’t come.
Someday isn’t real. It never was real. In fact, it’s a lie with only one deadly purpose:
To keep you stuck and powerless by shifting your attention away from the only day that truly matters.
The Day When You Saved Your Life
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: There is only one day on this earth that will ever matter:
You can only start getting out of debt today. You can only start honoring yourself and stop being someone’s doormat today. You can only stop smoking today. You can only start writing your novel today. You can only choose to fully love and accept yourself today.
You can’t do any of this tomorrow and you sure as hell can’t do it “someday.” And even if you could, why would you?
The clock is ticking, remember?
Each day where you choose “someday” over “today” is another day where you deny yourself of actually living your dream during your very limited (and constantly dwindling) time on this earth.
Living intentionally is all about making the conscious choice to remember that fact.
If you’re currently saying “someday” to something that matters to you, it’s time to stop. If you’ve crafted a clever
reason excuse why your dream has to wait until someday, I’m going to challenge you right now.
Be real with yourself, you know that there is something that you can do today to get you closer to your dream. It could be the smallest baby step in the world, but a baby step is better than no step at all.
On the other hand, believing in the lie that you’ll take the necessary action someday, will only succeed in putting you a little closer to the grave and a little farther away from your dream. It’s worth remembering this every time you choose to put off yours goals and dreams for a rainy day that doesn’t even exist.
Take it from a guy (aka, me) who believed in “someday” for way too long. And speaking from experience, believing in this lie comes with a serious price.
I’m awake now, and if your alarm clock is ringing, you can either hit the snooze button and wake up “someday,” or join me as someone who is committed to being consciously awake each and every day that we’re alive and breathing.
As they say, “a year from now, you’ll wish that you started today.”
That’s because today is the only day that matters.
Don’t wait until someday to make it count.
Is there an area of your life where you’re living for someday instead of today? Do you have a cautionary tale to share about why living for someday is a bad idea? If so, jump into comments below and make your voice heard!