Do you want to know the secret to living the most positive life possible?
Lean closer, because I don’t want too many people to be disappointed when they hear this.
Ready? Here it is:
There is no secret.
Sorry, but it’s true. You already know exactly what you need to do to make your life more positive than it already is right now, and it’s far from a secret.
It could be quitting your miserable job, starting a new business, walking away from a terrible relationship, losing excess weight, digging yourself out of debt, or creating more quality time with your family.
Whatever it may be, I’m confident that you know what you could do immediately to make your life more positive than it is right now.
The real question that needs to be answered is: Why aren’t you doing it?
That’s what I want to talk about.
Decide to Do It
Do you know what those words represent?
The word “decide” comes from the Latin word “decidere” which literally means “to cut off.”
When you decide to do something, you have effectively “cut off” any other options. You’ve drawn a line in the sand and committed to putting all of your effort into making your decision successful.
If there was a secret to living the most positive life possible, it would come down to this: Decide to do it.
That’s it. Don’t let anyone (including yourself) tell you otherwise.
Want to make more money and stop living paycheck to paycheck? Decide to do it.
Want to get into the best shape of your life and stop avoiding every mirror in your home? Decide to do it.
Want to experience more inner peace? Decide to do it.
Want to be in a loving relationship instead of settling for the soul-destroying relationship that you’re currently in? Decide to do it.
Don’t think it’s that simple?
The Barrier to Making a Decision
If you haven’t decided to fully claim your life and make it awesome as you possibly can before you die, I think I know why.
I can only say that because I’ve been there too (and in some areas of my life, I’m still there.)
If so, I want you to never forget this: Fear is nothing more than the anticipation of pain.
Many people believe that it will be painful to consistently make healthy food choices, so instead they choose to jeopardize their health by ordering the #5 Value Meal at the local fast food joint every night.
Many people believe that it will be painful to give up their free time to work on their novel, so instead they choose to spend that free time watching hours and hours of reality TV.
Many people believe that it will be painful to explain to their kids why they’re leaving their emotionally-abusive spouse, so instead they suck it up and accept a lifelong, soul-decaying relationship for their kids’ sake.
Yes, the thought of possible future pain has stopped more people from making necessary life-enhancing decisions than anything else on this earth.
But do you know what should be more painful?
Accepting a less-than-ideal existence because you’re too scared to deal with a little pain in order to make it better.
Believe this–you can have whatever you want once you decide it’s important enough.
Making a decision isn’t about “talking a big game” about your goals and doing nothing. It’s also not about wasting your breath trying to convince everyone about how legit your excuses are.
A decision is about saying, “I’ve drawn my line in the sand, and I will do this. No. Matter. What.”
So, let me ask you this:
Based on that definition, do you remember when you made a real decision? A decision where you were willing to move heaven and earth to make something happen?
As one of my good friends once told me, “I can tell quality of someone’s life based on how he (or she) answers those two questions.”
I agree with that.
Once You Decide
Everything changes once you decide.
Excuses melt away, fears get stared down, and pain becomes a minor speed bump on the road to your personal greatness.
It all starts with your decision.
If you’re a person who is just kinda, sorta flirting with the idea that a better life would be cool, feel free to stop reading this blog post because this message isn’t for you.
For everyone else, let me ask you this:
Do you want something? I mean, really want something? Then decide that you will get it.
Cut off other options, burn the damn bridge and your boat, stop talking about what you’re going to do, and most of all, get to work.
I understand that leaving a toxic relationship is hard. Losing a large amount of weight is hard. Starting your own business is hard. Writing a book is hard. Committing to live a life of positivity is hard.
Here’s the good news: The universe rewards commitment, and there can be no commitment without a decision.
In the end, it all comes down to this:
Will you be remembered as one of the many who let their fear of pain stop them from truly living? Or will you make a stand today to be one of the few who will experience something greater, even if it’s hard to do it?
It’s time to decide.
Have you ever made a decision where you committed to do anything within your power to make your goal happen? Are you the type who struggles to stay committed to your decisions? Either way, jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!