Stop Complaining

Stop complaining

Stop complaining.

If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy.

For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness, selfishness, thoughtlessness, laziness, arrogance, intolerance, dishonesty, and apathy, just to name a few.

But there’s one more trait that’s not on the list above that truly drives me insane.

I think that the reason why it annoys the hell out of me so much is because I used to be the living, breathing poster child for this miserable trait on a daily basis.

I was a chronic complainer. Yup, yours truly.

There used to be a time in the not-so-distant past where I would complain about anything and everything to anyone who had the misfortune of being stuck listening to my constant whining.

It didn’t matter if it was about my job, the weather, the pain in my knee, my sorry bank account, my girlfriend drama, how busy I was, how tired I was (you get the picture). If something ever went wrong in my life, please trust that I would instantly put a negative spin on it, and then spend the rest of the day (or longer) complaining about it.

To this day, I am so thankful that I had a friend years ago who was willing to snap me out of my funk by giving me some much-needed tough love.

  • He told me that my personal relationships would eventually suffer if I continued to constantly suck the energy out of every room with my complaining (he was right).
  • He told me that my professional career would eventually stall out if I constantly repelled the people who I worked with by complaining instead of taking action (again, he was right).
  • He told me that my mental, emotional, and even physical health would eventually decline if I didn’t make a decision to stop complaining and wallowing in negativity everyday (he was still right).

Thankfully, his tough love completely transformed my life. More accurately, it saved my life.

I have never looked at complaining in the same way ever since, and if you engage in chronic complaining like I did, then hopefully I can help you to break the cycle too.

All it takes is a little tough love. That’s why I’m here. [Read more…]

Keeping it Real

Young Depressed Man Lost In Sadness And Sorrow Holding Paper Wit

Keeping it real is harder than you may think.

Shola’s Note (4/2/2015): Since April Fool’s Day is now officially over, I’m adding this disclaimer. Please know that what you’re about to read below is an April Fool’s joke (and a good one too!) I don’t want any new readers who stumbled over to this blog for the first time thinking that I’ve lost my mind or something. With that said, enjoy! 

This blog post has been a long time in the making.

It’s hard to admit when you’re wrong sometimes, and it’s even more difficult when you decide to do so on a very public forum like a blog.

Even though all of that is true, I’m still going to do it anyway. As far as I’m concerned, I don’t have much of a choice.

Here goes nothing…

I’ve been wrong about everything.

Okay, maybe not everything, but it’s pretty damn close.

This has been a really tough couple of weeks for me, to be honest. I’ve spent a lot of time deeply examining what I’ve been doing here on The Positivity Solution, and I walked away with the realization that some serious changes need to be made around here.

Questioning everything that you’ve ever believed in is an incredibly humbling experience. It’s a lot more humbling when you realize that a great deal of what you believed in was totally wrong.

In some very private moments, a few of my closest friends/family became aware of how close I was to permanently shutting down this blog for good. I almost took the coward’s way out and bailed out on all of you without any explanation.

No matter what I’m going through, you guys deserve more than that from me.

In the words below, I’m going to do my best to “man up” by facing each of you and explaining specifically how I ended up getting so many things, so incredibly wrong on this blog. Admittedly, I’ve had quite a few private moments in the past few weeks where I struggled mightily to fight back tears as I sorted out the mess in my brain.

The words you’re about to read are intended to help sort out that mess in my brain. This won’t be easy for me, but I’ve already waited long enough to do this and I won’t wait a moment longer to share my thoughts with you.

Welcome to the most challenging post that I have ever written. [Read more…]

A New Reality

The face says it all.

The face says it all.

Author’s Note: In case you’re new here, this post explains the juicy details behind the transition from my old blog Cubepiphany, to the current blog you’re reading, The Positivity Solution.

Eight months.

Believe it or not, it has been 8 months since I launched Cubepiphany on Labor Day 2012. Even saying that sounds strange, because it honestly feels like this blog has been a part of my life forever.

In a sense, it has.

The dream to make our workplaces (actually, our lives) more enjoyable and more positive has been a burning passion of mine ever since I was a teenager.

I’m currently 38 years old, so that means that I’ve had the same dream floating around in my brain for over 20 years.

That’s a long time.

Eight months ago, after years and years of just thinking about my lifelong dream, I finally decided to do something about it by launching the blog that you’re currently reading now.

Ever since I hesitantly hit the “Publish” button on Cubepiphany for the very first time 8 months ago, a lot of amazing things have happened in my life.

I’ve connected with people from all over the world.

I’ve made new and incredible friends.

I’ve gone to bed every night with a feeling that I’m making a difference.

Most of all, I confirmed to myself that this dream of mine isn’t a hobby, a passing fad, or a cool way to pass the time until I find something else interesting to do.

Without a shadow of a doubt, I have realized that this is how I plan to spend the rest of my life until the day that I die.

Because of this realization, I’ve also realized over the past few weeks that I need to do something very important.

It’s actually something that I should have done a long time ago.

It’s time for me to officially end Cubepiphany, forever. [Read more…]