The Courage to Push Through Our Pain

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In order to truly fly, there is something that we must do first.

This week, I’m going to ask you to do something very interesting, and it’s potentially something that no one has ever asked you to do before.

I’m going to ask you to change your relationship with pain.

Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

That’s because, in a sense, it is scary. But it’s also necessary. Especially if you’re reading this and you are slightly interested in living a more positive life.

Ready?

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You’re Going to Die Soon

Consider this to be a much-needed reminder.

Don’t die with your music still inside you.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

Last week, during my radio tour to promote my new book, Making Work Work, one of the radio hosts asked me an interesting question off the air, prior to our interview:

“Writing a book is a grind, isn’t it? What kept you motivated to keep writing it when it would have been so much easier just to procrastinate or quit?”

Without hesitation, I had an answer–and I think that it surprised him.

“Because I’m going to die soon.”

<Awkward pause>

“Um, whoa…I didn’t know that. Are you sick?” The host asked sheepishly.

“No, actually, I’ve never felt better,” I replied, “but honestly, that could change in an instant. It may sound morbid, but I keep my mortality in mind every day to ensure that I don’t die with my music still inside of me. That’s what kept me showing up to write when I felt like quitting.” (Side note: my response will make more sense if you’ve read the Introduction of my book).

Yes, paradoxically it’s the thought of death that keeps me alive. [Read more…]

Addition By Subtraction

Addition by Subtraction

Sometimes, it’s best to walk away.

Have you ever dealt with an incredibly difficult person before?

I know, I know. Ridiculous question, right? Of course you have.

I bet that it was a miserable experience, wasn’t it?

I believe that one of the hardest things that we have to endure in our lives is dealing with difficult people. In fact, it’s so tough that I even wrote a free guide to help you navigate through the challenges of it (if interested, you can get it instantly by subscribing to The Positivity Solution.)

In this post, I’m going to take it a step further.

Specifically, I’m going to talk about the people who are, without a doubt, the worst of the worst. While it’s true that difficult people are fairly common, the people that I’m about to mention, thankfully, are very rare.

I’m talking about toxic people.

These folks are dangerous and have the power to destroy your life if they are not dealt with swiftly.

The only way to deal with these people is to fully embrace the “addition by subtraction” philosophy.

I can promise you that using this technique when it comes to dealing with toxic people will positively change your life in ways that you wouldn’t even imagine. [Read more…]

Love or Fear: The Choice That’s Facing America (and the World)

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Love or Fear–what’s it going to be, America?

This has been a pretty brutal summer.

In the past seven days, we have seen the police kill two men in an incomprehensible manner. We have seen five police officers killed in cold blood in the line of duty. We have watched race relations disintegrate, anger and mistrust reach a fever pitch, and blame for the world’s problems being slung around like Halloween candy on social media pages.

Regardless of who you are, the unfortunate reality that we all share is that we are currently living in a world with far more questions than answers.

And, as a black man who writes about positivity, quite a few people have hit me up in the past few days to ask me for answers to these very tough questions.

Most of them were a variation of this one:

“The world is circling the drain right now. What can we do to make a positive change in the face of such unrelenting negativity?”

I have an answer.

The problem with my answer is that many people won’t have the guts, resilience and mental toughness to even try it once they hear what it is. Which is completely fine, because I’m not writing this for them anyway.

For the rest of us, read on. [Read more…]

After the Slash

Choose wisely.

There is nothing more important in the world than this. When you’re done reading this post, I’m confident that you’ll agree with me.

Your happiness, success, your health, the job of your dreams, inner peace, true love, even your sanity depends solely on this one thing.

It’s called the slash, and you cannot live another moment without a full understanding of its power over your life.

Strangely enough, you’ve probably never heard of it until now. Stranger than that, is the fact that you use it multiple times a day without even being aware of it.

That is, until now.

In order to understand what I’m talking about, please allow me to illustrate the power of the slash in action. [Read more…]

3 Unconventional Ways to Ensure that 2016 is Better Than 2015

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Your new year (and your new story) begins today.

For whatever reason, it seems like it’s the new “cool kid” trend these days to hate on New Year’s resolutions.

Personally? I think they’re great.

As long as we’re willing to stick with them.

That’s the real issue, isn’t it? Sticking with our commitments. Because when we don’t, the bigger problem that we’ll face is the reality of each new year looking a lot like the one before it.

The truth is that change can be very hard. Even worse, the advice that we’ve heard to make the change stick has varying degrees of effectiveness: set realistic goals, get an accountability partner, don’t beat yourself up when/if you fall short, be willing to push through the initial discomfort, etc.

You’ve heard this all before, I’m sure.

So, in an attempt to shake things up a little bit, allow me to give you some unconventional–and very simple–advice that if followed, will make this year better than last year.

Sound good? Let’s jump in. [Read more…]