This is the beginning of anything you want.” -Unknown
Tomorrow is going to be an absolutely surreal day for me.
On May 20, 2013 (a year ago, tomorrow), despite near-crippling self-doubt, second-guessing, and a unhealthy dose of my arch-enemy fear, I made a life-altering decision:
I launched The Positivity Solution.
364 days later, I can say that it was easily one of the best decisions of my life.
Since that day, the Positivity Solution has been read in 162 countries and counting, I’ve reached thousands of amazing people all over the world who have told me that my words have deeply impacted them, and I’ve experienced a soul-nourishing joy that is only exceeded by the births of my two little girls.
But before all of that goodness, I remember sitting with my laptop at my kitchen table a year ago facing my self-doubt, a blank screen with a flashing cursor, and an annoying question that wouldn’t go away:
“What if I fail?”
If you’re in a place where you’re dealing with the same self-doubt, this is the blog post for you.
The Start of Anything Meaningful
This might sound simple (probably because it is), but every meaningful accomplishment in the world started from a belief that it could be done. Don’t let anyone tell you any different–that’s where it all starts.
I don’t know what your big life goal is, but do you believe that you can do it?
Before you answer, know this: everyone, and I mean everyone, has self-doubt. I have it, you have it, your favorite author/athlete/actor/musician has it. We ALL have it, and that’s okay.
So, the question isn’t “do you doubt yourself?” The real question is, “will you let your self-doubt stop you?”
The only way that self-doubt can turn into unshakable belief is through taking action.
For most of my adult life, I wanted to create something that would help to make the world a more positive place at work, home, and every place in between. Also for most of my adult life, I believed that I wasn’t talented enough, well-connected enough, or influential enough to make it happen.
And then after dipping my toe in the blogging waters for a little while in 2012, I decided to completely dive in, take real action, and go fully after my dream on May 20, 2013. Nearly a year later, my self-doubt is still with me, but it is so much smaller and quieter than it was at this time last year.
So, what does this have to do with you?
No matter what you want in your life, I’m telling you that you can have it if you’re willing to do two things:
Believe in yourself and take action toward your goal.
The First Day of the Rest of Your Life
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” -Henry Ford
So, let me ask you again–when it comes to your life’s dream, do you believe that you can do it?
Like Henry Ford said, you’re right either way.
I don’t believe that life is complicated at all. Everything will always begin (and end) with our belief in ourselves, so if there’s something that you want out of life, then you must start there.
Do you want to lose weight or quit a destructive habit? Then believe that you have the discipline to do it. Other people have done it successfully–so why not you too?
Do you want to leave your soul-murdering relationship and find real love? Then believe that you’re deserving of it. Stop settling for the scraps that life has to offer. You deserve the best love that this world can offer, and there is someone out there looking for someone just like you…but that person can’t come to you while you’re stuck in your crappy relationship.
Do you want to write a book/start your own business/share your talents with the world? Then believe that you’re every bit as good as the success stories that you see in the magazines. Remember, before they became “somebodies” they were nobodies just like us.
Do you want to finally get your college degree, run a marathon, or travel the world? Then believe that this dream came to you for a reason. Stop buying into the insanity that “it’s too late” for you to go after anything that you can’t stop thinking about.
Do you want to experience inner peace and unshakable joy? Then know that it’s possible and completely within your grasp if you choose to go for it. There are no special certifications or qualifications needed to experience peace and happiness–everything that you need is already within you.
In the end, here is the simple truth–all of the above can happen if you believe in yourself, and then start taking action! This is the simplest “magic formula” in the world and anyone can use it to positively change his/her life.
I’m completely cool with sounding like a Miss America contestant right now, because deep down, I know how transformative this simple truth can be if it’s acted on.
Here’s the kicker though–even if you don’t completely believe in yourself yet, just by taking action (no matter how small that action is), it will help to make your self-belief strong.
Today can be the first day of your new life, just like May 20, 2013 was for me.
The reason why I created The Positivity Solution is because I desperately want that for you, and for everyone else who visits this place.
My Unshakable Belief
Can I be honest with you? I have no talent.
I can’t sing and dance like Usher. Multiple knee surgeries derailed my basketball career. I’m not a lawyer, physician, or an accountant.
All that I have working for me is one thing:
I give a damn about people.
Somehow, that tiny spark created the blog that you’re reading now. I decided to fight through the “what if I fail?” question and through my self-doubt because I believed that I could use my caring about others to make a positive difference in the world.
And I have.
Trust me, I’m not bragging–actually, it’s the opposite. I’m sharing this because I’m no one special. I achieved more than I thought possible once I chose to believe in myself more than my doubts and fears.
If you’re struggling with believing in yourself, please know that I feel you more than I can ever express in this blog post.
May 20th is a day that I will never forget, and I want May 19th (or insert the day that you’re reading this) to be just as special for you.
If you make today the day where you choose to believe in your abilities more than your doubts, you will experience a happiness that will touch your soul in ways that will shock you.
We’re in this together and we’ll fight our self-doubts side by side, if you’ll let me.
Even though a year has passed, and even though a lot has changed since I sat down at my kitchen table with my laptop last year, one thing hasn’t:
I believe deeply in you, because you’re the reason why I started this blog in the first place.
Thanks for an awesome first year, and let’s get ready to do even more amazing things in Year Two.
Thanks for believing in me as much as believe in you!
Do you believe in yourself? How has your self-doubt slowed you down? Don’t hesitate to jump into the comments below and make your voice heard!