Archives for February 2016

The Dream of Finally Making Work Work

About Shola

It’s time to make work, work.

It has been a really fun ride.

Three and half years ago on Labor Day, I started a blog with a very funny name and with a very simple dream stuck in my mind:

I wanted to make the world a more positive place for as many people as possible.

For months and months, I would send my words out into the interwebs each Monday morning, and besides my family and a few supportive friends, no one knew I was there.

But I still kept writing anyway.

This won’t surprise you if you really know me, but I’m obsessed with helping people who are in pain. That may sound weird to some people, but I’m proud to say that’s how I’m wired.

My primary obsession in my life is finding a way to bring positive change to the working world.

I’ve personally seen too many professional lives from all over the world, that have been destroyed by toxic coworkers, bullying bosses, passive-aggressive behavior, backstabbing self-preservationists, and corporate cultures that value profit far more than they value their people.

For years, I waited for someone to do something meaningful about this issue that is hurting so many good people all over the world.

No one came to the rescue.

So, I kept writing.

I did it in hopes that my dream of creating a more positive working world would somehow become a reality…if I just kept showing up to write.

Recently, my dream took a huge step forward. [Read more…]

GUEST POST: The Key to Staying Locked in on Your Priorities

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It’s time to get serious about your priorities.

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have a treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of presenting creative writer, marketing specialist, and positivity enthusiast, Mary Kleim. So, without further ado, here’s Mary!

Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar

There’s a lot of wisdom when you scratch the surface of that quote. Why aren’t you doing the things you know you’re supposed to be doing? What prevents you from meditating at least half an hour a day? Why aren’t you finishing the online course you started? Why aren’t you reading more books?

Always the same answer – “There’s not enough time.”

But, there is! Nicola Tesla and Albert Einstein had the same 24 hours a day you have.

The yogis you admire on Instagram? Same thing. They seem to have their lives perfect. They have time for exercise, work, family, healthy cooking, and even social media.

How do they do it? The answer is: focus. They have found their center and know how to focus on the things that are important.

Being aware of the priorities has to be one of the most important traits of mental toughness. How do you achieve that quality? Let’s see. [Read more…]

GUEST POST: Finding Strength Through Letting Go

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Sometimes, holding on does more damage than letting go.

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have a treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of presenting (for the second time!) career strategist, positivity enthusiast and corporate trainer extraordinaire, Sherry Dodge. Her first guest post was so good, that I had to ask her to come back. So, without further ado, here’s Sherry!

Sometimes, holding on does more damage than letting go.” -Unknown

A few days ago I saw this quote on a friend’s Facebook feed and it hit me like a ton of bricks. The message had come at just the right time.

In the weeks prior, I had been struggling with an unfortunate misunderstanding that had occurred with a close friend, and I was right in the middle of over-analyzing, second-guessing and dealing with all kinds of emotions (namely–sadness, bitterness, confusion, guilt and disappointment.)

Maybe you’ve experienced something like this too.

The incident had seemingly destroyed our friendship overnight and, rather than accepting how things were, I fought with every fiber of my being to hold on to how I thought things should be. How the other person should react. How we should be able to find a resolution because that’s what rational and reasonable people do.

But something happened to me the tighter I grasped.

I thought that if I fought harder to make things right, this person would eventually see my perspective and everything would return to “normal.” But it didn’t quite work out that way. In fact, the opposite happened.

It was like I was playing a game of tug-of-war where the other end of the rope was firmly attached to a fence post. The efforts were futile. All I was doing was tiring myself out, losing sleep and further alienating my friend.

“Sometimes holding on does more damage than letting go.”

In this case, most of the damage was being done to me. [Read more…]

Safety is an Illusion

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Are you safer in the water or on the ledge?

After a recent speaking engagement, I struck up a conversation with a guy in the audience who was thinking about becoming a public speaker too.

In only a few minutes of chatting with him, I could instantly tell that he would be a fabulous speaker if he decided to go for it. He was charismatic, extremely likable, and most importantly, he had a meaningful message to share with the world.

So, of course I asked him what was holding him back. Unfortunately, he gave me an answer that I’ve heard hundreds of times, in different varieties, over the past few years:

“It is so much safer sitting in the audience than it is to be on stage.”

As a guy who has spent plenty of time both on stage and sitting in the audience, I feel qualified to let you in on a little secret. I also shared this secret with that young man after my speech:

It’s not safer in the audience.  [Read more…]