Being Your Own Hero

Being your own hero

Be your own hero.

One day I was teaching a customer service class, and I remember a woman complaining non-stop about how miserable she was in her job.

She went on and on about how she hated all of her coworkers, she hated her boss, she hated serving customers, and most of all, she felt like her job was taking years off of her life due to “being around stupid people all day.”

When she was done with her rant, I asked her a very obvious question that she probably should have asked herself years ago:

“If you’re so miserable here, shouldn’t you consider finding another job that will make you happy?”

She was completely shocked by my question, before she finally responded.

“Well, I have bills to pay and I need this job. But that’s not even the issue. I just don’t understand why this company has so many idiots working here. They should be the ones who have to quit, not me…” Blah, blah, blah.

On and on she went. It was truly sad to listen to her.

She believed that the responsibility for fixing her unhappiness in her job belonged to her company, to her coworkers, and to her boss.

The fact is, no one is going to save her from a job that she hates–least of all, the “idiots” who she hates working with.

But I know who can. [Read more…]


What You Allow

What you allow is what will continue

Having a doormat is good. Being one? Not so good.

In my opinion, you can throw every other motivational quote in this world’s history out of the window if you choose to embrace the epicness of the following quote:

What you allow is what will continue.” -Unknown

If you think about it, what in the world could possibly be more motivational and empowering than knowing that we are always in complete control of what we allow into our lives?

I’ll even take it a step further.

I believe that if we remember this quote and live the truth in this quote on a daily basis, our lives and our world would become more positive in an instant.

But let’s be real.

Lots of people know that quote is true, but they keep allowing the same crap to flow into their lives anyway. Predictably, what will continue to faithfully show up in their lives is more of the crap that they’re trying to avoid.

Maybe you’re one of those people.

I know that I used to be. Actually, in many areas of my life, I still am that person.

I want this post to serve as your wake-up call. Scratch that, OUR wake-up call.

We’re in this together.

Effective immediately, it is time for you, me, and anyone else who is reading these words to become more mindful of what we allow into our lives.

This is too important to wait a moment longer. [Read more…]


Do You Really Want It?

Door To Brick Wall

What do you see–a barrier or an opportunity?

A while ago, I ran into one of my old coworkers at the grocery store.

We used to work together at the soul-destroying hellhole that I’ve described in other blog posts in the past. I haven’t seen this woman at all since I left that place for good many years ago, and I was very curious to find out if she was still working there.

One thing that I knew for sure was that she hated at working at that place as much, if not more, than I did.

Surely, she escaped and was joyfully working in a happy and healthy work environment, right?


Here’s a brief nugget from our conversation in the grocery store:

Me: “Hey, so are you still working at (company that is so wretched and awful that it cannot be named)?”

Ex-coworker (obviously embarrassed): <Deep sigh>“Yeah I am, but…”

To be honest, I stopped listening at that point.

I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain. [Read more…]


The Easiest Way to Help Someone

Help needed. Drowning man's hand in sea or ocean.

We’re all going to need help at one time or another.

“Do you ever have any bad days?”

For some strange reason, I get that question a lot.

Sure, I genuinely smile a lot. I do believe in the power of positivity more than many people probably believe in anything. I’m also a very happy and peaceful guy too.

And yes, I have bad days.

Hopefully that doesn’t surprise you. Believing in the power of positivity doesn’t magically immunize me from having them (but it would be awesome if it did.)

I have soul-crushing days at work. I get into arguments with my wife. People who I love deeply get sick and die. My little girls have been known to board the train to “Meltdown Town” at the most inopportune times. My faith in myself and my abilities gets tested on a near-daily basis. My tires get flat, I step in dog crap and I lose my car keys.

What positivity does for me is give me the strength to keep pushing forward, in spite of the drama that life throws at me.

But just like most people, there are days when the tank is on empty and there’s nothing left to give. Those are the worst days, by far.

And on those days when it feels practically impossible to take another step forward, is exactly when we need help the most.

That’s what this blog post is about. [Read more…]


Two Words to Change the World

Can we change the world with two simple words? I think so.

The other night as I was sitting up in my bed, I had a thought enter my mind that hit me like a ton of bricks:

“Damn, I’ve asked you guys to do some really tough things here at The Positivity Solution, haven’t I?”

Just in 2015 alone (and we’re only 2 months in!), I’ve asked you to:

But this week, it’s time to put our feet up on the table, take the week off from the heavy lifting, and do something that is super easy.

Don’t miss the message, though.

As usual, even if it’s easy, if it’s on this blog, then it’s an important skill to get us closer to living a more positive life. Even more important, this skill has the power to completely change the world.

Best of all, it only involves saying two words consistently.

Ready? [Read more…]


The Insanity of Being Intimidated by People

Huge legs with small businessman standing in front concept on ba

It’s time to reclaim your power.

If you’ve been following The Positivity Solution for a little while, then I’m certain that you know this:

I believe that fear destroys more lives than any other force on this planet.

That’s why I talk about the dangers of living a fear-controlled life so often on this blog (like here, here and here for starters.)

While that’s true, there’s one form of fear that I haven’t really addressed up until this point, and it actually might be the most common form of fear that exists.

It’s the fear of other people.

Or more specifically, being intimidated by other people. If you’re in that place now, this one is for you. [Read more…]