• Stop Complaining

    If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy. For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness,… [Continue Reading]

    Stop Complaining
  • Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

    Shola’s Note (10/13/2014): “In honor of National Bullying Prevention Month, I’m re-posting this blog post in hopes of drawing more attention to the devastating effects of workplace bullying. If you don’t think this issue is… [Continue Reading]

    Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying
  • 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

    “It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.” In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above… [Continue Reading]

    3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World
  • Living for Someday

    Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die? Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none… [Continue Reading]

    Living for Someday
  • Silencing the Haters

    “I could never do what you do.” We were sitting in a coffee shop next door to my office when my friend said those words to me. My friend is brilliant, funny, and an exceptional… [Continue Reading]

    Silencing the Haters

The Other Side

The Other Side

How well do you know your other side?

One of my goals for The Positivity Solution is to do things a little differently around here.

My dream is to use The Positivity Solution to truly make the world a more positive place, and I know that it won’t happen by simply sharing motivational quotes on my Twitter and Facebook accounts all day long.

I love a good quote as much as the next guy, but chances are that you also know how much I love digging into the deep and challenging stuff as much as humanly possible too.

And on that note, what I’m going to ask you to do in this blog post may be the most challenging and the most uncomfortable thing that I’ve ever asked you to do here.

Simply put, we’re going to get to know ourselves a little better.

A lot better, actually.

It’s time for us to go to “the other side,” and fair warning, it might not be too much fun.

No worries though–ready or not, we’re still going there anyway. [Read more…]

 

The Importance of Standing Up

Revolution fist

It’s time to take a stand.

I have to be real with you, this is going to be a weird blog post to write–but due to popular demand, I’m writing it anyway.

If you follow me on Facebook, then chances are that you already know this story. But since a large portion of my readers don’t use Facebook, allow me to briefly recap here.

This past week, a few of my readers alerted me that my writing was being plagiarized.

Specifically, there’s a woman named Ashy Bines (who apparently, is a big deal in Australia), who took one of my favorite blog posts, cut & pasted excerpts of it, and attempted to pass it off as her own work on her very popular Facebook and Instagram accounts.

Not cool, right?

Even worse, when I politely asked her to stop using my writing as her own, she basically ignored me and deleted my comments. As I’m typing this on Monday, November 10th, my words are still up on her Instagram account and are racking up the “likes” at a pretty rapid pace.

So, what’s a guy to do? Move on and take the high road, right?

Well, let’s talk about that.
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40 Things That You Don’t Know About Me

Year 40: The Year of Perseverance

Contrary to what you may think, this blog post isn’t about me.

It’s about us. Specifically, it’s about creating an even deeper connection with you by sharing how much we have in common.

Many of you already know this, but yesterday (November 2nd) was my 40th birthday!

I have to admit that I feel infinitely smarter and wiser today than I did on Saturday when I was still in my 30’s. Okay, I’m kidding, but I can say that after 24 hours as a member of the 40-and-over club, I kinda like it here.

As you probably know, one thing that I do around here is mark my birthday as my own personal New Year, as opposed to January 1st. More importantly though, is that each year has a central theme.

Last year was all about authenticity, and this year’s theme is perseverance.

This year, I have some huge goals for myself and for The Positivity Solution, and if you have huge goals too, I’m excited for us to make them all happen together. Say it with me: Perseverance, baby!

Also, in what’s becoming a little bit a of a tradition on my birthday, I wanted to share with you 40 random things about me that you probably don’t know about me.

I did it last year, and it was a great way to make an even deeper connection with my fabulous Solutionists (see: 39 Things That You Don’t Know About Me). Since it was such a big hit, I figured why not do it again?

Without further ado, here they are in no particular order. Enjoy!  [Read more…]

 

The VIP Section

Who gets to be in your VIP Section?

If you’ve ever been to a nightclub before, then I’m sure that you’ve heard of the VIP (aka, Very Important Person) section before.

If not, the VIP section of a nightclub is the section of the club where some very lucky people get to enjoy some very cool perks.

People in the VIP section don’t wait in line like everyone else.

People in the VIP section are given super comfortable seats and a table with specialized service, just for them.

Most importantly, people in the VIP section get to enjoy the absolute best that the nightclub has to offer.

Make no mistake, it’s an honor, privilege, and a pretty incredible experience to enjoy VIP access.

At this point, I wouldn’t blame you if you were wondering, “umm okay, I haven’t been to a nightclub in years. What in the hell does this have to do with me?”

A lot, actually.

You might not be in charge of the VIP section for a fancy nightclub, but you’re in charge of the VIP section for something that’s far more important:

You’re in charge of the VIP section of your life. [Read more…]

 

The 5 Unshakable Traits of Mental Toughness

Mental Toughness

How mentally tough are you?

You either control your mind or it controls you.

It’s no exaggeration to say that the previous sentence holds the secret to life. As far as I’m concerned, the biggest and most important battle that we’ll ever fight on this earth is the battle between our two ears.

Consistently control your mind and you’ll win. Allow undisciplined thoughts to control your behaviors and actions, and you’ll lose. Repeatedly.

Simple, right? So, why do so many people come up on the losing end so often?

It all comes down to one critical factor: Mental Toughness.

I think of mental toughness as the next step past developing resilience.

The guy who stays cool under pressure? He has it. The woman who can stay locked-in on a goal despite the drama that’s going on around her? She has it too.

This is a critical skill to develop because every (and I mean, every) wildly successful person who I have had the pleasure of interacting with personally or professionally has a healthy amount of it.

Below are the five most common traits that I’ve personally noticed in those people. Do you have these five traits working for you in your life?

Let’s find out. [Read more…]

 

Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

Workplace bullying

This is NOT the guy who you want to spend 40 hours a week with.

Shola’s Note (10/13/2014): “In honor of National Bullying Prevention Month, I’m re-posting this blog post in hopes of drawing more attention to the devastating effects of workplace bullying. If you don’t think this issue is a big deal, just read the comments below for a serious wake-up call. Workplace bullying destroys lives, and it’s time for us to put a stop to it.”

I know, I know…”hate” isn’t the most positive word in the world, and it’s not one that I throw around loosely, but I can’t think of a word that describes my feelings for bullies more accurately than hate. “Extreme dislike” is too weak for me.

Keep reading and I’ll explain exactly why.

Bullying in any form is unquestionably terrible, but I want to focus on a form of bullying that doesn’t always get the attention that it deserves.

Specifically, I’m talking about workplace bullies.

Bullying in the workplace has reached near-epidemic status, and it’s time that we put an end to this behavior once and for all. This may sound ambitious, but my goal is that this post will mark the beginning of the end of bullying in the workplace.

I’m dead serious about making this happen. People have suffered for far too long at the hands of these sociopaths, and I’m calling for it to end now.

And just like anything, it all begins with you.

The future of the workplace as we know it depends on all of us taking control of our work lives and eradicating workplace bullies starting today.

In other words, it’s time for us to be the heroes in our own workplace story.

Fair warning, this isn’t going to be easy–but then again, this isn’t about doing what’s “easy.”

This is about doing what’s necessary.

There’s a lot to dive into, so let’s get to it. [Read more…]