• Living for Someday

    Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die? Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none… [Continue Reading]

    Living for Someday
  • 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

    “It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.” In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above… [Continue Reading]

    3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World
  • Silencing the Haters

    “I could never do what you do.” We were sitting in a coffee shop next door to my office when my friend said those words to me. My friend is brilliant, funny, and an exceptional… [Continue Reading]

    Silencing the Haters
  • Stop Complaining

    If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy. For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness,… [Continue Reading]

    Stop Complaining
  • Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

    I know, I know…”hate” isn’t the most positive word in the world, and it’s not one that I throw around loosely, but I can’t think of a word that describes my feelings for bullies more accurately… [Continue Reading]

    Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

Never Too Late

Do you think that it’s too late for you? Think again.

It is always too early to decide that it’s too late.” -Unknown

I remember reading the above quote on the Facebook page of one of my favorite blogs, and ever since then, I cannot stop thinking about it.

In life, it is far too common for people to believe deeply in the myth of “too late.” Maybe you’ve believed in it too. I know that I used to believe in it at one time.

Be honest with yourself, have you ever said or thought any of the following things?

It’s too late to completely change careers.

It’s too late to start a new diet and/or exercise program.

It’s too late to fix my credit.

It’s too late to get a college degree.

It’s too late to tell (insert person here) that I’m sorry.

It’s too late to write a book.

It’s too late to find true love.

It’s too late to move to a new city with warmer weather.

It’s too late to learn a foreign language.

It’s too late to start my own business and be my own boss.

It’s too late for me to be a better mother/father to my kids.

It’s too late to stand up to my coworker who is making my work life a living hell.

It’s too late to leave my significant other.

It’s too late to travel the world.

It’s too late to make any meaningful changes in my life.

It’s too late to have a bigger impact on the world.

It’s too late to be happy.

If so, stop it.

It is never too late for you. Yeah, I said it. Never.

In the words below, it’s my hope that you’ll see exactly why that is true. [Read more...]

 

You Can’t Run Forever

Sad boy alone in a bare room

What you’re running from will find you.

Do you know what I used to believe with every fiber of my being?

That I could run away from all of my problems.

It didn’t matter to me if it was an unhealthy romantic relationship, a bill collector’s phone calls, a nagging toothache, or a persistent sadness that I couldn’t seem to shake off, my solution was to avoid feeling it.

That’s because I believed that if I avoided my pain–or worse, if I ran in the opposite direction of my pain–it would eventually go away.

It didn’t. 

Yours won’t either.

If you’re running away from your demons right now, I can promise you that they will be waiting for you when you finally decide to stop running.

Even worse, at that point you’ll probably be too exhausted and too burned out to deal with those demons.

And it’s at that moment when they’ll win.

There’s a much better way, and just like everything else on this blog, it’s going to require some courage in order to make it happen.

Ready? [Read more...]

 

Decide.

Drawing A Line In The Sand.  An Old Metaphor.

Decide.

Do you want to know the secret to living the most positive life possible?

Lean closer, because I don’t want too many people to be disappointed when they hear this.

Ready? Here it is:

There is no secret.

Sorry, but it’s true. You already know exactly what you need to do to make your life more positive than it already is right now, and it’s far from a secret.

It could be quitting your miserable job, starting a new business, walking away from a terrible relationship, losing excess weight, digging yourself out of debt, or creating more quality time with your family.

Whatever it may be, I’m confident that you know what you could do immediately to make your life more positive than it is right now.

The real question that needs to be answered is: Why aren’t you doing it?

That’s what I want to talk about. [Read more...]

 

Overcoming the Need to be Liked

Need to be liked

Please like me, please like me…

I know a four-word sentence that has the power to get a negative response out of almost anyone who hears it.

Are you ready for it? Brace yourself, because it might sting a little:

“I don’t like you.”

Ouch.

See? It hurts, doesn’t it?

For years and years, I did anything humanly possible to avoid having those four words directed at me. Believe me, I’m still a work in progress, but I’ve come a long way from being the guy who desperately needed to be liked in order to be happy.

If you’re currently someone who has a desperate need to be liked by others, get comfortable because this blog post is for you. [Read more...]

 

What Judging Others Reveals About You

outcast girl

Do you know what judging others reveals about you? A lot.

Judgment can really be an ugly thing.

A few months ago, I was line at the gym waiting to swipe my membership card to enter the gym for my morning workout when I heard something disturbing.

Two women who were ahead of me in line started chuckling to themselves and commenting about a woman inside of the gym.

Lady #1: “I wonder if fat-ass Shamu is here this morning.” (Side note: In case you didn’t know, “Shamu” is the name of the huge killer whale at Sea World.)

Lady #2 (pointing at an overweight woman on an elliptical machine wearing a black-and-white outfit): “Yep, there she is! God, she is such a pig!”

Then they both swiped their membership cards and chuckled their way inside of the gym.

Yes, these were grown women in their 30′s, who got their jollies by making fun of a woman who was working hard to positively deal with the issue that they were currently laughing at her for (if that makes any sense.)

Yes, judgment really is such an ugly thing.

Unfortunately for those two women, what they didn’t realize is that their comments about that woman told me (and the world) so much more about them than it did about that woman. [Read more...]

 

The Response

In The Spring Anchor

Are you anchored in? I hope so.

I really didn’t want to share with you what you’re about to read.

Keep reading, and you’ll see why.

Even though all of my personal friends already know this story, I think that 90% of the people reading this probably don’t.

As they say, some stories just need to be told. And even though it might not seem like it at first, this story you’re about to read has a positive ending–I promise.

It’s actually in the ending where the real story begins. [Read more...]