• Stop Complaining

    If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy. For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness,… [Continue Reading]

    Stop Complaining
  • Living for Someday

    Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die? Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none… [Continue Reading]

    Living for Someday
  • Silencing the Haters

    “I could never do what you do.” We were sitting in a coffee shop next door to my office when my friend said those words to me. My friend is brilliant, funny, and an exceptional… [Continue Reading]

    Silencing the Haters
  • 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

    “It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.” In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above… [Continue Reading]

    3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World
  • Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

    I know, I know…”hate” isn’t the most positive word in the world, and it’s not one that I throw around loosely, but I can’t think of a word that describes my feelings for bullies more accurately… [Continue Reading]

    Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

Go Where You’re Wanted

If you’re not wanted, why stay?

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people–the ones who really belong in your life–will come to you. And stay.” -Will Smith

I believe deeply in simplicity.

One of my biggest blogging goals is to take complex concepts about living a more positive life, and streamline them in hopes of making it easier for thousands (maybe millions, one day?) of people to finally put them into action.

Here are five of my favorite examples:

1) What you allow is what will continue.

2) Stop complaining.

3) Leave the world better than you found it.

4) You have nothing to prove to anyone.

5) Be your own hero.

Simple, right?

And now, it’s time for another positivity solution (see what I did there?) that can save you from a ton of unnecessary pain and misery if you choose to follow it consistently:

Only go where you are wanted. [Read more...]

 

3 Myths About Being Strong That You Need to Stop Believing Today

The moment when we’re feeling the weakest, is the moment when we can find our strength.

It’s scary, isn’t it?

If you’ve ever been there before, you know exactly what I’m talking about too.

The feeling of complete mental and emotional burnout.

Most of you already know this, but I took the past three weeks off from everything.

No Monday morning blog posts. No inspirational status updates on my Facebook page or Twitter feed. No computers, no emails, and no writing. Nothing.

Just me taking a much-needed vacation in Hawaii (Kauai, to be specific) with my family to clear my head and recover from the worst burnout that I have ever experienced in my life to date.

Here’s a little context about where this burnout came from: Right now, I’m working 50+ hours a week as a Director at a Top-5 U.S. Hospital, I’m maintaining The Positivity Solution blog each week (and its social media pages every day), I’m working hard to be the best husband and father that I can possibly be (which are my most important jobs, by far), I’m writing a book, and with whatever time is left, I’m trying to squeeze in time to sleep and have a social life.

And unsurprisingly, I epically failed to keep juggling all of those balls in the air. My health, the quality of my work, and yes, my positivity all suffered mightily because of it.

On Monday July 21st, at the lowest point of my burnout, I hit the “Publish” button on my last blog post (which I can now admit that I wrote in an attempt to kick my own ass into gear), and I stared lifelessly at my computer screen with absolutely nothing left in the tank and nothing left to give.

So, I walked away. [Read more...]

 

Your Most Powerful Asset

Happy child enjoying on grass field and dreaming

This kid knows what the world’s most powerful asset is, do you?

“There are two types of people in this world: The ones who make you feel better as soon as they walk into a room, and the ones who make you feel better as soon as they walk out of it.”

That brilliant quote is courtesy of my mom, in case you were wondering.

I was probably 10 years old when she said it to me, and immediately after hearing it there was only one thought that stuck in my brain:

Whatever it takes, I will never be one of the people in the second group.

I wish that I could tell you otherwise, but I have failed many times in keeping that promise to myself.

As I’ve said before on this blog, I used to be a chronic complainer. I blamed everyone for my problems. I had an excuse for every reason why my life was failing. I would hate on anyone who was happier and more successful than I was.

In other words, I was “that guy” who literally made every room that I walked into a worse place than it was before my arrival.

Things have changed a lot since those days, and it’s mainly because I have finally realized what the world’s most important asset is, and how to use it in my favor.

If you don’t know what it is, allow me to introduce it to you. [Read more...]

 

GUEST POST: 8 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You From Being Happy

Depressed young man sitting on the floor and covering his face w

It’s time to get real.

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have another treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of introducing you to Steve Roy. He’s a straight-shooter, the founder of Ending the Grind, and a guy with the power to help you break out of your routine (personally or professionally) and live with passion. So, without further ado, here’s Steve!

The next time you’re out in public, take a look around. Notice the look of indifference on people’s faces as they shuffle their feet, put their heads down, and pretend not to see you. Sadly, most people will walk through life with a sense of hopelessness and incompleteness.

It’s because most of us are living by society’s standards and not our own. We do all the things that are expected of us without much thought as to whether it’s actually right for us or will make us happy.

After all, life should be a happy experience, shouldn’t it?

You don’t have to live this way, but you may be choosing to. And a big part of the problem is that you are telling yourself the following lies that you have come to believe as truth. [Read more...]

 

7 Ways That People Die Before They’re Actually Dead

This might as well be our view of the world if we choose to die before we’re actually dead.

Everyone dies. Not everyone really lives.” -William Sachs Wallace

Scary title for a blog post, isn’t it?

I hope so.

In reality, we should all fear death, but not in the way that you may think.

What I’m referring to is dying before we’re dead.

Sadly, many people die thousands of little deaths before they finally make it official.

Without any doubt, experiencing those tiny deaths on a daily basis is not only extremely painful, but those tiny deaths also make it so much harder for us to live our best lives before we reach the grave for good.

And if that wasn’t bad enough, those tiny deaths could also cause us to reach the grave much sooner than necessary too.

This path doesn’t have to be for us.

If you’ve ever experienced that sickening feeling when a tiny piece of you dies by not fully honoring yourself, this post is for you.

Below are 7 ways that many people experience death before reaching the grave.

If you’re experiencing any of these, commit to making today the day where you fully reclaim your life.

The man/woman staring back at you in your bathroom mirror will thank you immensely for it. [Read more...]

 

The Truth About Motivation

Little Superhero

I think that I know why he’s not jumping.

“Hey Shola, how do you stay so motivated to make the world a more positive place?”

I get that question a lot for some reason.

Motivation is such an elusive thing for many people. Some people can find the motivation to create a million dollar business from scratch, to lose 200 lbs, or to become a Ph.D before they turn 30. Other people can’t find the motivation to shower on a daily basis or get out of bed in the morning.

Weird, right?

Speaking of “weird,” here’s my answer to the question at the beginning of this blog post:

I’m really not motivated to make the world a more positive place.

Wait…what did he just say?

It looks like I have some explaining to do. [Read more...]