• Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

    Shola’s Note (10/13/2014): “In honor of National Bullying Prevention Month, I’m re-posting this blog post in hopes of drawing more attention to the devastating effects of workplace bullying. If you don’t think this issue is… [Continue Reading]

    Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying
  • Living for Someday

    Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die? Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none… [Continue Reading]

    Living for Someday
  • Stop Complaining

    If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy. For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness,… [Continue Reading]

    Stop Complaining
  • Silencing the Haters

    “I could never do what you do.” We were sitting in a coffee shop next door to my office when my friend said those words to me. My friend is brilliant, funny, and an exceptional… [Continue Reading]

    Silencing the Haters
  • 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

    (Shola’s note: Hey Solutionists! This December, I’m going to be taking the month off from writing to spend some quality time with my family during the holidays. However, instead of the blog being quiet for… [Continue Reading]

    3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

If you thought that positivity is easy, think again.

(Shola’s note: Hey Solutionists! This December, I’m going to be taking the month off from writing to spend some quality time with my family during the holidays. However, instead of the blog being quiet for the entire month, for the next three weeks, I’m going to re-run the Top 3 Positivity Solution posts from 2014. If you missed them, you’ll definitely want to read these–they’re guaranteed to start your 2015 off on the right foot. Speaking of 2015, I’ll be back fully recharged and ready to bring you all-new positivity in January! So, without further ado, here’s #1 on the 204 countdown: 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World.)

“It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.”

In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above quote to me.

Truthfully, I get where those people are coming from.

Being consistently positive is hard. Really hard.

Even though I’ve completely dedicated my life to positivity, I still come up short consistently.

So, why is this positivity stuff so damn hard? More importantly, what can we do to make it easier to stay positive?

Stay tuned, because I have the answer to both questions. [Read more…]

 

Living for Someday

If not now, when?

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins

Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none of us knows for sure. It could happen 45 years from now, it could happen sometime in 2015, hell–it could happen this afternoon.

Just like you, I sincerely hope that it doesn’t happen this afternoon, but just like you, I have no clue if it will.

One thing that we do know for sure is that our deaths will happen. It’s not a matter of if, it’s only a matter of when.

Since we all agree on this, why do we act like we have all of the time in the world to do the things that we’ve always wanted to do, or much more importantly, to be the person who we’ve always wanted to be?

Let me be real with you:

You don’t.

Our death is one of the few things in this world that is 100% guaranteed, and each moment that passes is bringing us closer to that moment when it will all come to an end. No matter how hard you try, there is absolutely nothing that you can do to stop the sand from pouring out of your hourglass as you’re reading these words.

Pretty sobering, isn’t it?

No, this isn’t going to be a depressing blog post about death and dying (C’mon–this place is called The Positivity Solution, remember? We don’t do that stuff around here, people.)

This is about choosing to live intentionally. I’m not talking about doing it next week, or tomorrow, or “when you have more time” (as if that day will ever come), and definitely not “someday.”

I’m talking about choosing to live right now.

We literally don’t have the time to spare, and if for some reason you think that you have plenty of time to go after your hopes and dreams, I’m here to give you the swift kick in the ass (lovingly, of course) that you desperately need and deserve. 

No more hitting the snooze button, it’s time to wake up. Hopefully, before it’s too late. [Read more…]

 

Go Where You’re Wanted

If you’re not wanted, why stay?

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people–the ones who really belong in your life–will come to you. And stay.” -Will Smith

I believe deeply in simplicity.

One of my biggest blogging goals is to take complex concepts about living a more positive life, and streamline them in hopes of making it easier for thousands (maybe millions, one day?) of people to finally put them into action.

Here are five of my favorite examples:

1) What you allow is what will continue.

2) Stop complaining.

3) Leave the world better than you found it.

4) You have nothing to prove to anyone.

5) Be your own hero.

Simple, right?

And now, it’s time for another positivity solution (see what I did there?) that can save you from a ton of unnecessary pain and misery if you choose to follow it consistently:

Only go where you are wanted. [Read more…]

 

The Pain That You Should Be Thankful For

Do you feel his pain? I do.

I absolutely LOVE Thanksgiving.

Food, family, friends, football, fun (did I get all of the “F’s”?), make this the one holiday that I look forward to the most every year.

In addition to all of the F’s, what I also love about this time of year is that we get to mindfully reflect on what’s really important in our lives (you know what that is, right?), and simply be in gratitude, at least for a day.

I urge you to consistently remember what it is that you’re thankful for, not just on Thanksgiving, but every day of your lives.

But that’s not what this blog post is about.

Let’s be real–most of you reading these words are already sincerely thankful for your health, your spouse, your kids, your home, your friends, your family, and your job.

But I also believe that there’s something that many of you reading this should be very thankful for, and you might not be aware of what it is. My hope is that you will be after reading this.

This Thursday before we slip into our yearly blissful tryptophanic food coma, my goal is to add one new thing to the many things that you are the most thankful for.

Truthfully, it could save your life. [Read more…]

 

The Other Side

The Other Side

How well do you know your other side?

One of my goals for The Positivity Solution is to do things a little differently around here.

My dream is to use The Positivity Solution to truly make the world a more positive place, and I know that it won’t happen by simply sharing motivational quotes on my Twitter and Facebook accounts all day long.

I love a good quote as much as the next guy, but chances are that you also know how much I love digging into the deep and challenging stuff as much as humanly possible too.

And on that note, what I’m going to ask you to do in this blog post may be the most challenging and the most uncomfortable thing that I’ve ever asked you to do here.

Simply put, we’re going to get to know ourselves a little better.

A lot better, actually.

It’s time for us to go to “the other side,” and fair warning, it might not be too much fun.

No worries though–ready or not, we’re still going there anyway. [Read more…]

 

The Importance of Standing Up

Revolution fist

It’s time to take a stand.

I have to be real with you, this is going to be a weird blog post to write–but due to popular demand, I’m writing it anyway.

If you follow me on Facebook, then chances are that you already know this story. But since a large portion of my readers don’t use Facebook, allow me to briefly recap here.

This past week, a few of my readers alerted me that my writing was being plagiarized.

Specifically, there’s a woman named Ashy Bines (who apparently, is a big deal in Australia), who took one of my favorite blog posts, cut & pasted excerpts of it, and attempted to pass it off as her own work on her very popular Facebook and Instagram accounts.

Not cool, right?

Even worse, when I politely asked her to stop using my writing as her own, she basically ignored me and deleted my comments. As I’m typing this on Monday, November 10th, my words are still up on her Instagram account and are racking up the “likes” at a pretty rapid pace.

So, what’s a guy to do? Move on and take the high road, right?

Well, let’s talk about that.
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