The Pain That You Should Be Thankful For

Do you feel his pain? I do.

I absolutely LOVE Thanksgiving.

Food, family, friends, football, fun (did I get all of the “F’s”?), make this the one holiday that I look forward to the most every year.

In addition to all of the F’s, what I also love about this time of year is that we get to mindfully reflect on what is really important in our lives, and simply be in gratitude, at least for a day.

I urge you to consistently remember what it is that you’re thankful for, not just on Thanksgiving, but every day of your lives.

But that’s not what this blog post is about.

Let’s be real–chances are that if you’re choosing to read The Positivity Solution, you are already aware of the importance of being thankful for your health, your spouse, your kids, your home, your friends, your family and your job.

So, let’s raise the stakes a little.

This Thursday before we slip into our yearly blissful tryptophanic food coma, my goal is to add a new and very important thing to the many things that you are the most thankful for.

Truthfully, it could save your life. [Read more…]

 

42 Things That You Don’t Know About Me

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Year Four: The Year of Growth

You might already know this, but this past Wednesday (November 2nd) was my 42nd birthday!

And, in what’s become a bit of a tradition on my birthday, I wanted to share with you 42 random things about me that you probably don’t know about me.

Don’t get confused though, I’m not writing this blog post for me–as always, this is about us.

Specifically, it’s about creating an even deeper connection with you by sharing how much we have in common–and I’m willing to bet that it’s more than you thought before reading this blog post.

As you probably know, one thing that I do around here is mark my birthday as my own personal New Year, as opposed to January 1st (makes sense, doesn’t it?) Also, I have celebrated four birthdays at The Positivity Solution, and each year had a central theme.

Year One was all about authenticity, Year Two was all about perseverance, Year Three (last year) was all about courage…so what’s the theme for this year?

This year’s theme is going to be all about growth.

I’ve always believed that there’s only two options in our lifetimes for all of us: we’re either growing or we’re dying. I think that I’ve lost sight of this recently, so this year is all about intentionally moving toward growth.

Say it with me: Growth, baby!

I’ve done this birthday post for the past four years, and since it is such a big hit and a great way to make an even deeper connection with the only reason why I’m here (that’s you, by the way), I figured why not do it again?

Some are new, some are repeats from last year for the many new readers in the house, but all should give you a little deeper insight into who I am and why I’m here.

Without further ado, here they are in no particular order. Enjoy!  [Read more…]

 

No, You Can’t Be “Too Nice”

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Contrary to what you might have heard, there is no such thing as being “too nice.”

In the past three years, I have heard the following sentence from very well-meaning people more times than I can remember:

“People always tell me that I’m too nice.”

My response to that statement is consistently the same:

It is impossible to be “too nice.”

And even if it was somehow possible, would it be a bad thing?

According to Merriam-Webster, nice is defined as being “kind, polite and friendly.” Seriously, I dare you to turn on the TV right now to any station that’s covering the upcoming presidential election and tell me that we can’t use an extra serving of “kind, polite and friendly” in our world right now.

But I digress–the problem is the misguided idea that we can be too nice, and the equally-misguided idea that being too nice (if it were even possible) is a bad thing.

Hopefully this blog post will put both of those pesky issues to bed once and for all. [Read more…]

 

The Courage to Push Through Our Pain

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In order to truly fly, there is something that we must do first.

This week, I’m going to ask you to do something very interesting, and it’s potentially something that no one has ever asked you to do before.

I’m going to ask you to change your relationship with pain.

Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

That’s because, in a sense, it is scary. But it’s also necessary. Especially if you’re reading this and you are slightly interested in living a more positive life.

Ready?

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Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

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This is NOT the guy who you want to spend 40 hours a week with.

Shola’s Note: October is National Bullying Awareness month, and I am ready to shine as bright of a light as I can on this hideous epidemic this month, and beyond. Workplace bullying is destroying lives, and it’s time for us to put a stop to it. If you don’t think that Workplace Bullying is “a thing,” just read the comments below for a serious wake-up call. And because of this, I’m taking the next step to bringing attention to (and ideally, ending) this soul-destroying issue, with my debut book, Making Work Work. For more info about the book and the workplace movement we’re creating, read this post.

I know, I know…”hate” isn’t the most positive word in the world, and it’s not one that I throw around loosely, but I can’t think of a word that describes my feelings for bullies more accurately than hate. “Extreme dislike” is too weak for me.

Keep reading and I’ll explain exactly why.

Bullying in any form is unquestionably terrible, but I want to focus on a form of bullying that doesn’t always get the attention that it deserves.

Specifically, I’m talking about workplace bullies.

Bullying in the workplace has reached near-epidemic status, and it’s time that we put an end to this behavior once and for all. This may sound ambitious, but my goal is that this post will mark the beginning of the end of bullying in the workplace.

I’m dead serious about making this happen. People have suffered for far too long at the hands of these sociopaths, and I’m calling for it to end now.

And just like anything, it all begins with you.

The future of the workplace as we know it depends on all of us taking control of our work lives and eradicating workplace bullies starting today.

In other words, it’s time for us to be the heroes in our own workplace story.

Fair warning, this isn’t going to be easy–but then again, this isn’t about doing what’s “easy.”

This is about doing what’s necessary.

There’s a lot to dive into, so let’s get to it. [Read more…]

 

GUEST POST: How To Deal With The Loss Of Your Best Friend

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Some friendships don’t last forever (Image Source: Pixabay)

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have a treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of presenting professional self-development and personal growth writer, Mike Jones. Without further ado, here’s Mike!

I think we don’t talk often enough about what it is like to lose your best friend.

Not in some catastrophic, dramatic way, but just slowly drifting apart, until one day, you realize they are completely gone, even though they’re standing right next to you.

In pop culture, losing a loved one almost invariably means losing the person you are romantically involved with. Best friends always patch things up in the movies, even if their relationship goes south at some during the story. But in real life, that doesn’t always happen.

And I can tell you for a fact, dealing with this sort of loss is hard. [Read more…]