• Stop Complaining

    If you’re anything like me, there are probably certain traits that you see in other people that drive you crazy. For example, here are a few less-than-pleasant traits that most well-adjusted people can’t stand: rudeness,… [Continue Reading]

    Stop Complaining
  • After the Slash

    There is nothing more important in the world than this. When you’re done reading this post, I’m confident that you’ll agree with me. Your happiness, success, your health, the job of your dreams, inner peace,… [Continue Reading]

    After the Slash
  • Just Today

    What if I told you that I wanted to share with you the secret to everlasting success and happiness? Would you be willing to hear me out? I hope so. However, what if I also… [Continue Reading]

    Just Today
  • Rise of the Nice Guy

    Can I let you in on a little secret? Do you know the one thing that I want more than almost anything? A new car? A bigger house? More zeroes at the end of my paycheck? More… [Continue Reading]

    Rise of the Nice Guy
  • Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

    I know, I know…”hate” isn’t the most positive word in the world, and it’s not one that I throw around loosely, but I can’t think of a word that describes my feelings for bullies more accurately… [Continue Reading]

    Bullied No More: The End of Workplace Bullying

Your Most Powerful Asset

Happy child enjoying on grass field and dreaming

This kid knows what the world’s most powerful asset is, do you?

“There are two types of people in this world: The ones who make you feel better as soon as they walk into a room, and the ones who make you feel better as soon as they walk out of it.”

That brilliant quote is courtesy of my mom, in case you were wondering.

I was probably 10 years old when she said it to me, and immediately after hearing it there was only one thought that stuck in my brain:

Whatever it takes, I will never be one of the people in the second group.

I wish that I could tell you otherwise, but I have failed many times in keeping that promise to myself.

As I’ve said before on this blog, I used to be a chronic complainer. I blamed everyone for my problems. I had an excuse for every reason why my life was failing. I would hate on anyone who was happier and more successful than I was.

In other words, I was “that guy” who literally made every room that I walked into a worse place than it was before my arrival.

Things have changed a lot since those days, and it’s mainly because I have finally realized what the world’s most important asset is, and how to use it in my favor.

If you don’t know what it is, allow me to introduce it to you. [Read more...]

 

GUEST POST: 8 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You From Being Happy

Depressed young man sitting on the floor and covering his face w

It’s time to get real.

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have another treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of introducing you to Steve Roy. He’s a straight-shooter, the founder of Ending the Grind, and a guy with the power to help you break out of your routine (personally or professionally) and live with passion. So, without further ado, here’s Steve!

The next time you’re out in public, take a look around. Notice the look of indifference on people’s faces as they shuffle their feet, put their heads down, and pretend not to see you. Sadly, most people will walk through life with a sense of hopelessness and incompleteness.

It’s because most of us are living by society’s standards and not our own. We do all the things that are expected of us without much thought as to whether it’s actually right for us or will make us happy.

After all, life should be a happy experience, shouldn’t it?

You don’t have to live this way, but you may be choosing to. And a big part of the problem is that you are telling yourself the following lies that you have come to believe as truth. [Read more...]

 

7 Ways That People Die Before They’re Actually Dead

This might as well be our view of the world if we choose to die before we’re actually dead.

Everyone dies. Not everyone really lives.” -William Sachs Wallace

Scary title for a blog post, isn’t it?

I hope so.

In reality, we should all fear death, but not in the way that you may think.

What I’m referring to is dying before we’re dead.

Sadly, many people die thousands of little deaths before they finally make it official.

Without any doubt, experiencing those tiny deaths on a daily basis is not only extremely painful, but those tiny deaths also make it so much harder for us to live our best lives before we reach the grave for good.

And if that wasn’t bad enough, those tiny deaths could also cause us to reach the grave much sooner than necessary too.

This path doesn’t have to be for us.

If you’ve ever experienced that sickening feeling when a tiny piece of you dies by not fully honoring yourself, this post is for you.

Below are 7 ways that many people experience death before reaching the grave.

If you’re experiencing any of these, commit to making today the day where you fully reclaim your life.

The man/woman staring back at you in your bathroom mirror will thank you immensely for it. [Read more...]

 

The Truth About Motivation

Little Superhero

I think that I know why he’s not jumping.

“Hey Shola, how do you stay so motivated to make the world a more positive place?”

I get that question a lot for some reason.

Motivation is such an elusive thing for many people. Some people can find the motivation to create a million dollar business from scratch, to lose 200 lbs, or to become a Ph.D before they turn 30. Other people can’t find the motivation to shower on a daily basis or get out of bed in the morning.

Weird, right?

Speaking of “weird,” here’s my answer to the question at the beginning of this blog post:

I’m really not motivated to make the world a more positive place.

Wait…what did he just say?

It looks like I have some explaining to do. [Read more...]

 

Better Than You Found It

Beautiful, isn’t it? You can create the same beauty in the world right now.

Last week, I talked about how ridiculously hard it is for most people to live a life of consistent positivity.

If you’re one of the many people who are currently living a life of positivity, then you probably know how hard it can be. That’s why it’s worth saying it again:

Being negative is the easy route.

The real challenge in life is finding the inner strength to be positive enough to make the world a better place, even in the face of unrelenting negativity.

Since it is a challenge, my goal is to make living a positive life as easy as humanly possible for as many people as I can reach.

Last week, I shared three simple, but very powerful tips to stay consistently positive. This week, I’m going to take it a big step further by giving you one simple rule to instantly (yes, instantly) make the world a more positive place.

Anyone can do it, you don’t need any talent/skills/connections/education/etc, and most importantly, you can apply this rule the minute you’re done reading this blog post.

Sound good? Let’s get to it. [Read more...]

 

3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

If you thought that positivity is easy, think again.

“It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.”

In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above quote to me.

Truthfully, I get where those people are coming from.

Being consistently positive is hard. Really hard.

Even though I’ve completely dedicated my life to positivity, I still come up short consistently.

So, why is this positivity stuff so damn hard? More importantly, what can we do to make it easier to stay positive?

Stay tuned, because I have the answer to both questions. [Read more...]