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  • 3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

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Remember Why You Started

Why did you start?

This is it–the last Monday in January!

That means that this is the final entry in my four-part January series to ensure that we start off this year as positively as possible. Here’s what we’ve covered so far in 2015:

1) Start by asking yourself the question that will determine the direction for your entire year (The Question That You Need to Ask Yourself)

2) Next, find the courage to push through the temporary pain and discomfort that’s an inevitable part (sorry, but it is) of making any meaningful change in our lives (Pushing Through Pain)

3) Then, take the first steps to ruthlessly remove any toxic habit (or toxic person) that will slow down your progress in 2015 (Release to Rise)

Now it’s time for the final step, and in a sense, it’s probably the easiest one of all.

And it’s also the most important, by far. [Read more…]

 

Release to Rise

woman in orange dress

It’s time to let go.

It’s time to dig deep this week.

In keeping with January’s theme of bringing you actionable advice each Monday to create an awesome 2015, this week’s topic is another way to make that happen.

First, let’s recap what we’ve covered so far in 2015.

On week one, I asked you to ask yourself a life-altering question (and to answer it honestly too.)

Last week, I asked you to radically change your relationship with pain.

This week, it’s time to rise up.

And as usual, just because the results will be positive, it doesn’t mean that the process will be easy.

My promise to you is that it will be worth it.

Let’s get to it. [Read more…]

 

Pushing Through Pain

Young Man Lost In Depression Sitting On Ground Street Concrete S

Living a positive life means having to push through some pain. Are you up for it?

Are you ready to make 2015 much better than 2014?

If so, we’ll have to do things a little differently.

A lot differently, actually.

Last week, I asked you to ask yourself a simple, but life-altering question (by the way, did you do it yet?), and each Monday in January, I’m going to push us out of our collective comfort zones to ensure that we lay a rock-solid foundation for our best year ever.

Unfortunately though, as tough as last week’s challenge was, this one is going to be even tougher. Here’s why:

I’m going to ask you to change your relationship with pain.

Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

That’s because it is scary. But it’s also necessary. Especially if you’re reading this and you are slightly interested in living a more positive life.

Ready?

[Read more…]

 

The Question That You Need to Ask Yourself

Woman walking alone at sunset

It’s time for an honest answer.

Here’s a quick riddle for you.

Do you know the one question that is asked literally millions of times a day all over the world, people rarely answer it honestly when it’s asked to them, and it’s a question that people almost never direct at themselves, even though they should on a daily basis?

Give up?

No worries, let’s cut the suspense and get to it. Here it is:

“How are you?”

So, really–how are you?

This is such a simple question, and your willingness to answer it honestly is the main difference between making 2015 the most positive year possible, or another year that was just like last year (which isn’t a good thing if 2014 was a hot mess.)

Think that’s an exaggeration? It’s not.

I’ll prove it. [Read more…]

 

3 Ways to Stay Positive in a Less Than Positive World

If you thought that positivity is easy, think again.

“It’s completely unrealistic to be positive all of the time.”

In a little over a year since The Positivity Solution has been in existence, I’ve probably heard at least 100 different people say the above quote to me.

Truthfully, I get where those people are coming from.

Being consistently positive is hard. Really hard.

Even though I’ve completely dedicated my life to positivity, I still come up short consistently.

So, why is this positivity stuff so damn hard? More importantly, what can we do to make it easier to stay positive?

Stay tuned, because I have the answer to both questions. [Read more…]

 

Living for Someday

If not now, when?

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies in us while we live.” -Norman Cousins

Do you know the exact moment when you’re going to die?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone–none of us knows for sure. It could happen 45 years from now, it could happen sometime in 2015, hell–it could happen this afternoon.

Just like you, I sincerely hope that it doesn’t happen this afternoon, but just like you, I have no clue if it will.

One thing that we do know for sure is that our deaths will happen. It’s not a matter of if, it’s only a matter of when.

Since we all agree on this, why do we act like we have all of the time in the world to do the things that we’ve always wanted to do, or much more importantly, to be the person who we’ve always wanted to be?

Let me be real with you:

You don’t.

Our death is one of the few things in this world that is 100% guaranteed, and each moment that passes is bringing us closer to that moment when it will all come to an end. No matter how hard you try, there is absolutely nothing that you can do to stop the sand from pouring out of your hourglass as you’re reading these words.

Pretty sobering, isn’t it?

No, this isn’t going to be a depressing blog post about death and dying (C’mon–this place is called The Positivity Solution, remember? We don’t do that stuff around here, people.)

This is about choosing to live intentionally. I’m not talking about doing it next week, or tomorrow, or “when you have more time” (as if that day will ever come), and definitely not “someday.”

I’m talking about choosing to live right now.

We literally don’t have the time to spare, and if for some reason you think that you have plenty of time to go after your hopes and dreams, I’m here to give you the swift kick in the ass (lovingly, of course) that you desperately need and deserve. 

No more hitting the snooze button, it’s time to wake up. Hopefully, before it’s too late. [Read more…]