Being Stronger Than Your Excuses

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You are so much stronger than your excuses.

Imagine this:

You are locked into the fight for your life, and you’re giving it all of your effort.

You’re punching, kicking, scratching, hair-pulling, and doing everything within your power to win this fight. And after years and years of battling with every shred of energy you have, you finally reach the day when you win.

But here’s the bad news that no one is willing to tell you:

You didn’t really win.

That’s because you were fighting for your excuses instead of fighting for your best life.

Worst of all, as a result of winning this fight, you’ve now lost any shot that you’ve ever had at living the life that you are hoping for.

Sad, isn’t it?

Unfortunately, in the not-so-distant past, I was that guy fighting the wrong fight, and I can safely say that it is a miserable way to go through life–that’s why I’m writing this.

If you’re in that place now, it’s time to hang up the boxing gloves and start fighting the right fight.

You are so much stronger than your excuses.
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Grow or Die

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Set a goal that is big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.” -Jim Rohn

The title of this blog post is pretty dramatic, isn’t it?

Maybe it is, but it’s true. At best, in this life, we’re all either growing or we’re decaying. Since I’m the type of guy who likes to push the envelope, let me take it one step further.

We’re all either growing or we’re dying.

Technically, I guess that there would be a tiny segment of the population that would be the exception to the above rule:

If your life is flawlessly perfect and there’s nothing in your life that you want to change, improve, or show some growth, then this blog post is definitely not for you.

(Actually, this entire website is not for you. Why are you here???)

For the rest of us, keep reading.

If there is a big area of your life where you want to grow (think: quitting a destructive habit, starting your own business, or committing to start standing up for yourself), let me be real with you:

It will never happen if you continue to be the exact same person you are today. [Read more…]


Respect Is Not Earned

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Does this woman need to earn your respect before you give it to her? I hope not.

Respect is earned.

How do you feel when you hear that statement? Are you in total agreement with it? Or do you think that it is complete insanity?

Before you answer, let’s begin with a simple experiment.

Take a moment to look at the two groups of professionals listed below:

Group A: Physician, attorney, accountant, university professor, pilot, engineer, scientist, and CEO.

Group B: Waiter, flight attendant, nurse, customer service representative, coffee barista, retail employee, valet, bank teller, cashier, bell hop, grocery store bagger/cashier, receptionist, and hotel maid.

Keep it real with me.

Which group deserves more of your respect and admiration? Don’t struggle with this question–it should be a fairly easy one to answer.

Made your choice?


Before I tell you my answer, allow me to share with you what an acquaintance of mine said when I asked her the same question: [Read more…]


The Anti-Logic of Turning Friends into Enemies

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Life is stressful enough without turning our friends into enemies.

Not that you need me to tell you this, but it’s a very stressful world that we live in.

Turn on the news and you’ll see horrifying stories of global terrorism, increasingly negative and hateful political battles, and consistent stream of crime, racial tensions, and other societal ills that make it hard to even want to leave the house in the morning.

If you do choose to leave the house, guess what could be waiting for you when you finally make it to work? In many cases, it could be a soul-draining combination of backstabbing coworkers, bully bosses, and a mountain of work that only seems to get higher, not smaller.

And that’s if you have a job!

If you don’t have a steady paycheck coming in, then you’re faced with a different (and arguably, worse) kind of stress. Namely, finding a way to keep the lights on in your home and food on your table everyday.

Okay, enough of that stuff.

The point that I’m getting at here is that stress is everywhere and no matter how positive we claim to be, we can’t run from it, even if we wanted to. Denying this reality is not positivity, it’s delusion.

Real positivity is choosing to deal with the stress in our lives as productively as possible. And in my opinion, in order to do that well, we’re going to need some help from our friends. [Read more…]


Your Beliefs Are Irrelevant

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Do your beliefs really matter? Not really.

A few Sundays ago, after I finished my morning workout, I decided to drive to the gas station down the street to fill up my tank before heading home.

For some reason, I wasn’t paying attention to the fact that the stoplight in front of me had just turned green as I stared blankly ahead at the road in front of me…without moving an inch. Even worse, while I was daydreaming in my car, I was blocking a line of cars who were trying to exit from a nearby parking lot.

Within seconds, I was quickly reminded (in a not-so-gentle manner) to move, by a man who was trying to exit from that parking lot:

<Car horn honking loudly>: “Hey motherf—–, are you retarded?? Move your damn car!”

Whoa. I was shocked.

No, I wasn’t shocked that he cursed at me, or that he used the “r-word” (which I despise), or that his wife (presumably) and his two young kids were in the car and witnessed him go off on me.

I was shocked because that exchange took place as he was driving out of the church parking lot after Sunday service. [Read more…]


GUEST POST: Bottling It In

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Bottling up our emotions is not the solution.

Shola’s Note: Hey Solutionists! In my effort to introduce you to some amazing people who are working hard to make this world a more positive place, I have a treat for you! On this month’s Solutionist Spotlight, I have the honor of presenting healthcare superstar, jewelry-maker and positivity enthusiast, Nahla Zaki. So, without further ado, here’s Nahla!

Many of us plead guilty of oftentimes bottling up our emotions and burying them deep in the pits of our souls.

Every so often, more is shoveled in, and the pile keeps looking like a twisted mountain of negativity just waiting for an avalanche to hit. In order to live with true positivity, we must stop the avalanche before it starts, and find a way to get rid of the excess baggage.

But first, let’s analyze why we do this and how to mitigate such situations to prevent such storms.

Understanding the underlying causes behind why we do certain things is key to implement positive change. [Read more…]