Two Words to Change the World

Can we change the world with two simple words? I think so.

The other night as I was sitting up in my bed, I had a thought enter my mind that hit me like a ton of bricks:

“Damn, I’ve asked you guys to do some really tough things here at The Positivity Solution, haven’t I?”

Just in 2015 alone (and we’re only 2 months in!), I’ve asked you to:

But this week, it’s time to put our feet up on the table, take the week off from the heavy lifting, and do something that is super easy.

Don’t miss the message, though.

As usual, even if it’s easy, if it’s on this blog, then it’s an important skill to get us closer to living a more positive life. Even more important, this skill has the power to completely change the world.

Best of all, it only involves saying two words consistently.

Ready? [Read more…]


The Insanity of Being Intimidated by People

Huge legs with small businessman standing in front concept on ba

It’s time to reclaim your power.

If you’ve been following The Positivity Solution for a little while, then I’m certain that you know this:

I believe that fear destroys more lives than any other force on this planet.

That’s why I talk about the dangers of living a fear-controlled life so often on this blog (like here, here and here for starters.)

While that’s true, there’s one form of fear that I haven’t really addressed up until this point, and it actually might be the most common form of fear that exists.

It’s the fear of other people.

Or more specifically, being intimidated by other people. If you’re in that place now, this one is for you. [Read more…]


We’re The Same

Regardless of what you’ve heard, we’re really the same.

Can I tell you something about me?

Some of it is obvious, some of it is less obvious (but it’s stuff that you probably already know) and some of it is information that I’ve never shared here before.

Ready? Here goes:

I’m a black man, I’m in an interracial marriage (with two bi-racial daughters), I’m politically liberal, I don’t follow any organized religion (I choose spirituality instead), and I’m one of the only people I know who hates the taste of chocolate.

But, enough about me. Let’s see how you’re doing.

It’s possible that you actually might like me more after reading the previous sentence, but if so, this post isn’t about you.

I want to address the people who may like me less after reading the opening to this blog post.

If you’re one of those people (and if you’re still reading this blog post), keep reading. I have something for you. [Read more…]


The Love That Will Save the World

Tree of love

This is where all meaningful love begins.

It’s Valentine’s Day week! And I’m sure that you know what that means.

In a few days from now, mailboxes all over the world will be flooded with flowers, chocolates and love letters for millions of excited men and women.

Can I be brutally honest, though?

I don’t give a damn about any of that.

I’ve never really understood Valentine’s Day. It’s supposed to be a day of celebrating love, but it has morphed into a weird competitive sport where people are focused on comparing the size of their flower bouquets to their coworkers’ flower bouquets to see who is “loved the most” (but that’s a topic for a different day.)

And more importantly, shouldn’t we be celebrating love every day?

That’s what I want to talk about: Celebrating love. Every. Single. Day.

But I’m not talking about romantic love, the love you have for your friends, or even the love that you have for your kids.

I want to talk about the love that has the power to save the world.

And I’m confident that you know exactly the kind of love that I’m talking about too. [Read more…]


There Are More of Us

Large Group of Diverse Multiethnic Students

There will always be more of us.

“The world is full of bullies, selfish assholes and criminals. What makes you think that you can make any difference when the whole world is against your message of positivity?”


That question was asked to me after a recent speaking engagement, and I’m sure that there might be someone reading this blog post who might feel the same way as she did.

If so, here was my answer to her:

“Sure, there are definitely a lot of jerks in this world, but there are way more people who are genuinely kind, generous and loving. That’s a fact.”

She shook her head and called me naive (which I’ve gotten used to pretty quickly, considering that I run a blog called “The Positivity Solution.”)

Nothing will change my mind on this simple truth.

There are more of us. [Read more…]


Remember Why You Started

Why did you start?

This is it–the last Monday in January!

That means that this is the final entry in my four-part January series to ensure that we start off this year as positively as possible. Here’s what we’ve covered so far in 2015:

1) Start by asking yourself the question that will determine the direction for your entire year (The Question That You Need to Ask Yourself)

2) Next, find the courage to push through the temporary pain and discomfort that’s an inevitable part (sorry, but it is) of making any meaningful change in our lives (Pushing Through Pain)

3) Then, take the first steps to ruthlessly remove any toxic habit (or toxic person) that will slow down your progress in 2015 (Release to Rise)

Now it’s time for the final step, and in a sense, it’s probably the easiest one of all.

And it’s also the most important, by far. [Read more…]